my job!!!!!!!!!

I don't really know where to begin...

I'm 22. I work at a daycare, and each day I take care of between 6-10 children from age of 7 mo. - 1 year 4 mo.

it is stressful as hell. the kids cry non stop, I am always running around like my head is cut off, my boss is very bad at what she does, and the place is always understaffed.

not to mention my co teacher in the room complains 24/7 not only about the workplace but her life in general.

I seriously, have lost it.

I have serious anger issues. I get angry at the littlest things. I know that 99%... I probably have depression

I have extremely HUGE anxiety and stress.

last week two days in a row I went home and looked in the mirror, and there were hives all over my chest. and on my neck.

I can't quit my job because I need money big time, another stressful part of my life.

I'm trying to find a new job...

my point is I am afraid that I take my anger out on the kids. at certain points all I see myself doing is yelling. I Can't take the crying anymore. I can't take my co teacher complaining ALL DAY about the same stuff every day.

I guess its a venting I dunno...anyone have any advice on how to calm down? how not to be so mad at work. Ilove my kids. I dont want to take my anger out on em. (I would NEVER hit them, I just get cranky with them)

I have issues with my boyfriend too which causes me unbelieveable anxious stress....

any advice, anyone?

thank you in advance...

I have the same problem but I would with elderly. I can't take their dumbness any more and they are really getting on my nervous. I wish I could change jobs also but I have to learn that when I am upset with them. I go out side there door and let it out and go back in and do the best I can.

I hate my job and wish I could do something else but I only know how to do what I am doing. I have to make it work.

There are times I just want to walk out and say forget it bit I am not rich. To bad there was not a fairy or man in a lamp to give us a few wishes.

Dear Baby920 and Butterflykisses, I agree that both of you need new jobs. In the meantime - until you find or train for other jobs - I suggest you make a plan to defuse your anger this way:

1. Take a time-out as suggested whenever you can. Remove yourself - even for a few minutes - to calm down. Do some deep breathing.

2. Start changing your self-talk. Write out recent scenarios and what you said to yourself which may have caused you to become more provoked with anger. Change your self-talk to incoporate phrases like this:
"I don't need to let this minor issue upset me."
"This person isn't capable of dealing with their problems. He/she is just a child (or adult with brain dementia."
"Take a deep breath. Don't let this - crying, demanding, event- trouble you. You have more important concerns than this."
"I can cope with this. I can try to manage this situation."
"What will this issue matter to me in a week or so?".
Some people find prayer a helpful intervention as well.

3. Get support. If a situation gets so bad - you need to ask a co-worker or your supervisor for help. Or maybe you need to ask for a change of patients/students.

4. Stress management. Make sure you have time to wind-down after work. Get some evercise and take time to meditate or pray. Cut down on the stress in the rest of your life. You have more control over the stressful challenges you face personally than you do at work.

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Thank you andercoach for the tips.

But trying to control your anger is harder than what people think it is. I hope to find relief soon.

angercoach wrote:
2. [b]Start changing your self-talk
"What will this issue matter to me in a week or so?".

This is a new one for me! Excellent.
When I am angry everything is right in the moment. Thinking ahead, looking past the immediate situation into the future, is a way to lift one's self out of the grasp of the adrenaline rush of anger and into a calmer, more reflective state. I've been trying this and it really works. Thanks, Angercoach, for the great tip.

i dont mean to be nasty but i am about to be honest if this is how you feel when you work around kids the you shouldnt do that job no matter how much you need the money!

what happens if one day you rally do loose it and take it out on one opf the children that parent who thought that the child was going toa wel stabalised nurserey isn't well going to a well stabalised and as for being understafed they should open there is a maximum number of children per adult or qualified nursery nurse and ifr they get searched or looked at by the inspecters there will be hel to pay!
i know all this as when i used to live at home my sister used to work in a nursery and tey got closd down for being under stafed but tthey never had unstabalised workers they had to have crb checks and every thing!

i really dont mean to be nasty but maybe you should thin about taking time off you always owed holiday they dont make you work 7day week?

this isnt right if you ever thought about taking it out on a child then you shouldnt do the job!

the man that has just killed his two hyear old daughter hall that triggered him was he was having sex with his girlfriednd and the child knocked the door she wanted comfort off her perants but the dad turned on her and attacked her now she is DEAD!!!!!

hope it was of help to you!!