Short bursts of anger

Hi!

I found this forum as I am having a hard time sometimes dealing with anger. I can be quite spiteful when hurt, I really get this little red mist. I am never violent but I have a fiancee I love and sometimes I can say some quite mean things that I instantly regret.

I had a bit of a rough upbringing. A mum who is a manic depressive, bipolar, schizphrenic who I had to care for, who used to attempt suicide more times than I can remember through my childhood and then when my parents split up, my dad kept my sister and made me live with my mum and then told me 4 years later he wasn't my real dad.

Does anyone have any tips to deal with the outburts? I can feel a lot of frustration within myself but I gotta curb my spitefulness as shes a wonderful woman who doesn't deserve it. Generally I am extremely romantic, thoughtful, generous, kind and funny (and clearly modest!) but I need to deal with my demon.

Thanks,

Effie.

Sorry to hear what is going on for you! I would consider some form of physical exercise when you're feeling that way, something like boxing or even weight lifting may allow you to get that built up tension out of your body in a physical and powerful way, without hurting others/yourself.