Father has anger & depression issues

This is a buch of problems, but I think the biggest one deals with anger.
I live in a house with my dad and my two sisters. We're 15,17, and 20, and my dad's 54. My dad has really bad anger issues,he has since before we were born, but now its just out of hand. There's absolutely nothing physical, but we get yelled at for every tiny detail, like if we didn't turn off a light or other small things. Our mom died 3 years ago, and hes had real bad depression, and although I have a world of sympathy for him its so hard to deal with his fluctuating moods and constant rages...I'm usually ok with being patient and all, there's no use arguing when you obviously know it would make things worse, but lately I have been completely stressed out. Among a bunch of other things I got into a car crash, and now I've lost all confidence in my driving ability, which sucks because I know I'm actually really good. My dad brought me to the doctor, they said I have ADHD, but the pills don't do much except make me dizzy.
He took me to a psychologist too, but after my session he got angry at the psychologist for running us late and he blew, so she suggested we see her in family sessions,and we do. My dad talks a hell of a lot about how he's going to take time off from work (he works the nightshift, but he takes morning hours AND afternoon hours for a million different reasons...gets about 4 hours of sleep) but does the same damn thing. He's working himself to death and lying to our psychologist, but he always has a way to defend himself. Like we need the money (we don't) or it takes his mind off of everything, and its UNHEALTHY!
I'm at a loss of things to do, and frankly I can't stand having to deal with his issues for much longer. Me and my sisters don't fight with eachother, we just always seem to have to guard ourselves around dad. I think only way I'm still sane is because I can luckily go out with my friends and escape all the drama at the house. But I don't get to do that as often as I'd like either because I'm afraid to leave him alone. The therapy seems to have an adverse or little effect...ppppplllllleaassseee advice on how to deal with his anger, or him to get over it?! And if anyone has anytips on how to help me get over the car crash that would be great too!

Hi Liz,

Sounds like your dad really Rages and verbally abuses you and your sisters! I bet you are always on guard trying not to get yelled at. That really sucks.

Trauma of a car crash. My cousin is going through this right now.
You have every right to get jittery thinking of this and you can get help with this. Your dad lying in family group? OH BOY!
DO NOT Let him get by with that. You and your sister join together and snag them to stand up to your dad in family group.

And in all this I hear you lost your mom. This is a loss that can not be replaced, on the best-it should make you all closer. I am sorry for the loss of your mom.

I hope your family really pulls together and it will take all of you.

Good Luck!
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Dear Liz,
Take care of yourself first. Ask to see a psychologist/counselor for individual sessions since you seem to be having symptoms related to Post Traumatic Stress. When people have been through a crisis or trauma - PTSD can result. But, talking it out and working through the anxiety will help.
Secondly, you do need to keep the child abuse hotline number (1-800-4A-Child) on hand or call the police if your Dad becomes threatening or physically abusive. He is depressed and the depression is coming out in anger and abuse towards you and your siblings. But, depression is no excuse for abuse. In fact, there is no excuse for abuse.
You need to be frank in the sessions with the counselor about how to deal with the verbal abuse. If you are too frightened to talk about it in front of your Dad - then, you need to see the family counselor alone and discuss it.
Your Dad won't change unless he gets help for his depression and help to manage his anger and abusive behavior. You can't change him - but, you can protect and change yourself.
I understand what it's like to grow up in an abusive home - but, there are resources available now to help you.