Anger and hatred towards heteros

This is my first post and I don't know if I am not sure if I am doing the right thing by posting this. But I need help. I am going to try hard not to offend anyone. I have been dealing with a lot of anger lately that has been getting out of control. Its something that has accumulated for years and years. I hate straight people for what they have done to me my whole. They have discriminated me for being different. I can't explain the anger I have against them. I can't even put it in words. Every time I see a straight couple it gets me angry. I'm always attracted to straight men, and it just makes things a lot worse. It reminds me of everything they have done to me. I JUST REALLY HATE THEM!!!. The fear, the fights, the pain, the envy, the shame, especially the humiliation I felt. They slaughter, murder, and they justify their actions. Basically, the whole world is your enemy. You have to learn to survive. I had to go through to a great length to hide who I was in order to survive. I had to find an incredible amount of strength at a young age to keep going even though I knew it was never going to be enough. Everything I accomplished was motivated by anger and hate. That's why I got far because I learned how to make it work. I just want to stop the hate and let it go.

The key to getting past the hate is knowing that most of them are not like that. They come in all different kinds, the best and the worst. I lived in terror like you. I hated their cruelty, like you.

But many people I knew have since come forward and apologized for it when they realized that they had been wrong. The trauma will never heal, but I can forgive, and maybe one day you'll be able to as well.

I strongly believe that all of them are the same. Tried to get past the anger, but its way too much to handle. Straight people are evil and I accept that cruel reality. Because of straight people I got into porn and that just led to more problems. I am tired of being afraid of those ###$.

hyphybum2014 wrote:I hate straight people for what they have done to me my whole. They have discriminated me for being different.

I completely understand that you have a deep anger and every right to have it considering how you were treated.

I wonder though if you need to reframe your anger towards a different group. Instead of being mad at straight people be made at people that do not have tolerance for those that are different. It isn't whether a person is straight or not, it is that they fail to realize and support a person's decision with who they want to be with. Them being "straight" just happens to be the vehicle they use to do that. The core issue is that they aren't tolerant of people being different.

Feel the anger once you have directed it towards the reason and then learn to become tolerant yourself that people aren't accepting. Wish that they will learn from their mistakes and learn to do so.

I understand that you are angered about theire attitude towards you. But don't compensate it by developing hate. hate only brings more hate...you know they say:

love is the only thing that multiplies when divided

hyphybum2014 wrote:I strongly believe that all of them are the same. Tried to get past the anger, but its way too much to handle. Straight people are evil and I accept that cruel reality. Because of straight people I got into porn and that just led to more problems. I am tired of being afraid of those ###$.

Not being afraid of them is the first step. Your hatred comes from two things: resentment at the unjust abuse that you (and I) received, and fear of what they might do in the future, since you have learned that some of them are truly capable of anything.

When you cast aside your fear and meet them face to face, this is when you become their equal. You have the right to nothing less, and when you seize that right, it will make you fearless.

It's only at that point that you can start working on the resentment, but that's the subject of another post.

It's kind of hard not to hate them. Whenever I look at some hetero, my blood boils. It reminds of everything that they have done to me. Sometimes I want to learn martial arts so I can beat one up and make him bleed on the ground and keep hitting him just like how they did to me. I don't trust hets, I don't like being around hets, and I don't want to be friends with hets. But deep down I know its not right.

Hi Hyphybum2014,

You have every right to feel anger. I feel angry at all of those who have slaughtered, murdered, and justified their actions for their incapability to accept someone different. Their fear, has caused so much pain on to others.

I'm sorry you've felt fear, I'm sorry you've had to fight, I'm sorry for the pain, the shame and the humiliation.

Sometimes I ask myself, how deep it's their fear that they need to assaults others to feel "safe". Nothing, NOTHING justify their actions.

I'm straight, I don't think like them at all. I've got many gay friends. My best friend is gay, I adore him with all my heart.

I agree with MindsetShift:

MindsetShift wrote:I wonder though if you need to reframe your anger towards a different group. Instead of being mad at straight people be made at people that do not have tolerance for those that are different. It isn't whether a person is straight or not, it is that they fail to realize and support a person's decision with who they want to be with. Them being "straight" just happens to be the vehicle they use to do that. The core issue is that they aren't tolerant of people being different.

There are many people who don't tolerate who is different: White people with black people, Local people with foreigner people, lesbians with gays, masculine male gays with feminine male gays, rich people with poor people, nazi to jews, and so on.

I'm not only for anyone loving anyone else - It's love, it's their lives; but I'm also for including everyone.

I understand your anger, I share your anger. Hatred, would almost be like a reward for them, because it will consume you. So, don't give them that pleasure. Try to heal all the pain you've gone through, try to channel your anger through writing, drawing, training, exercising. Understand who are you really mad at: people who are intolerant with others. And try not to fall into the same category as them. If you were to hit someone straight, because you hate them, because other straight people has done to you, wouldn't you be a little like them? What if you hit someone who supports anyone loving anyone else?

Try taking off the label you're applying to the person, and try to see the human being she or he is.

Hey, I truly hope you can heal all that pain. Anger, usually is a mask that covers other deep feelings. You have every right to feel the way you're feeling, try redirecting it, and don't let it consume you. Don't let those intolerant people be able to ignite your anger, they are not worth it.

Sea

PS: I wasn't sure wether to tell you I'm straight. I hope my words doesn't offend you just because I'm straight. I imagine reading a post from someone you've applied a label you hate, mustn't be easy. I wrote it, because I wanted to show you that even though I'm straight, I support your rights, I support you loving another man if you're a man, or loving another woman if you're a woman. I've done activism to teach others, friends, family, coworkers, so that they can open their minds. And many people who have me in Facebook wonder if I'm a lesbian because of I support gay causes. I don't clarify anything. If they think I'm a lesbian, it's totally ok with me. And yeah, I tell them I belong to the LGBT community, because I feel it, because I defend their rights, because those are also mine. Stay safe.

I myself am bicurious and there is a part of me that feels the same way, especially when they say something like we are the real bigots who are always shoving our sexualities in everyone's faces.

Don't even get me started on politics.

LoneSword7878 wrote:I myself am bicurious and there is a part of me that feels the same way, especially when they say something like we are the real bigots who are always shoving our sexualities in everyone's faces.

Don't even get me started on politics.

Sometimes it just feels good to have a target for your pent up hate & frustration, sure you can rationalize it, but some people and their personalities are just flat out irritating.
I am quite inclusive, because it just makes sense, why would you want to limit yourself and your social circle?