VENTING........IM FRUSTRATED

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my step dad has an anger problem which is hard for me to deal with. He throws things when he gets mad but he doesn't throw them at anybody. He knows how bad these things upset me because I've told him before but when I talked to him about it, he just got angrier. It started off with my step dad getting mad because the house wasn't clean and so mom and him started yelling at each other and the next thing I knew there were objects being thrown. It was a scary situation for me because when I am around fights, I tense up because of my past. I am terrified of people when they get mad and when my step dad gets mad, so does my mom, and then I am left scared. I have thought about running away before but this is the best family I have ever lived in. These people don't fight too much...its seldom...and it would be stupid to go out on the streets where all kinds of bad things could happen. I am also frustrated because mom gets upset when I call my step dad "stepdad". She says its rude to call him "stepdad" even though thats what he really is to me. So mom makes me call him "dad" and I hate doing that because he's not my dad! Also, I got in trouble by the cops on Wendsday for "truency" along with another friend of mine. And on top of all of this, my flashbacks have been getting worse. Will someone please...nvm...I don't know if I can get help...I don't even know how to help myself.

Dear Friend, I suggest that you talk this over with your school counselor. If you don't have one or don't feel comfortable- then, discuss it with your pastor or youth pastor.
You need to talk about the past and how it is affecting you with someone who will respect your confidentiality. Of course, you need also to have a plan if you feel your life is in danger around your step-dad.

Take your Mom aside and tell her you don't feel comfortable calling your step-dad... Dad. She cannot force you to do this. She needs to respect you and your decision since you already have a biological Dad. Even if you didn't - no one can force you to call them "Mom" or "Dad" unless that is their rightful status in your life.

the most important thing right now is to have a plan to keep yourself safe and to be expressing your feelings about the past to someone you can trust so you can deal with the loss and grieve.

Consider calling the Youth Crisis Hotline: 1-800-Hit-Home
Also, you need to have a plan to go to a friend's house when your step-father throws another fit. This is not a safe environment for you to be in.