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I haven't ever talked about his before.

Lately, within the last 6 - 8 months I would say, I've been getting angrier and angrier. My thoughts and feelings are near rageful. I'm so pissed at my "family" all of the time. I just want to see them grovel in the dirt and get beaten so so low. I want them to suffer, and I think about hurting them all of the time when they do things that make me mad. But I don't think that I'd ever do that. These thoughts don't make me happy or euphoric usually. Honestly they make me more sad than anything because it's not what I really want but it's all I can do. I don't know how to solve the conflicts. Verbally expressing my problems has never worked with them. They just ignore me which makes me think there's no solving it. So since I can't solve anything, all I think about is hurting them, or leaving and never coming back. I lock myself in my bedroom and I haven't spoken to them in ages. I just want to slap them since they won't stop being as**holes. I don't have much of a history of being really angry....I use to be so calm and I never got mad at anybody even if they messed with me; I could handle my emotions. That doesn't mean that they didn't do things that made me angry, I just never acted on it. I'm wondering if I've somehow built up all of this rage. I don't want to be this kind of person; this isn't me.

I don't know what to do with all of this. I'm angry, I'm really anxious, and I'm unhappy.

Lostandinsecure wrote:I haven't ever talked about his before.

I don't want to be this kind of person; this isn't me.

I don't know what to do with all of this. I'm angry, I'm really anxious, and I'm unhappy.

Dear Lost,

You might find the answer you are looking for in your own words, that is why I quoted you. The reason you might ask is I know what it is like to feel this way and how you view others. I used to be the same way, blaming my family for my problems and insecurity when really they had nothing to do with it. The truth is, nobody can dig you out of this hole, only you can do that. They may be able to throw you a shovel or send you blueprints to build a latter but they cannot be the ones to climb out of your hole.

Your heart is trying to tell you to change yourself, plain and simple. It happens to everyone but not everyone listens because they are afraid of change. You do not have to be scared because your heart already knows what it wants, and it wants you to live a happy and full life. Maybe the situation you are in right now does not encourage or allow that but you have the power to change that, RIGHT NOW. Don't wait until tomorrow, next week, month, etc, you have to make these changes now or they will never happen. Trust me, nothing in the world knows what's best for you greater than your heart. Listen to it, for it is the genesis that will lead you to happiness.

I forgot to say you should change your name To something positive. It'll make you feel better when you login!

Nothing to worry about, anger is a universal emotion we all have to deal with. The most important thing is to not let that anger become a spur to violence, and to focus it on the people deserving of this ire. To find anger disturbing is a reflex conditioned by a culture that pathologizes it and has no understanding of how when transmuted or focused on the right people and injustice and oppression, it has great utility. On top of this, intellectuals throughout history have assured its negative reputation with their usually negative views on the subject. Anger can be a very important emotion regulating the maintenance of self-respect; when someone does you wrong, such as stealing your money, or insulting you in some way, to respond with anger is a defence to feelings that threaten your self-esteem, a way of asserting your dignity in the face of humilation.

How else should one respond to oppression, to disease, to someone else's affront to your dignity and humanity? The derogation of anger may have a long intellectual pedigree, but anger is nevertheless nothing to be ashamed of; indeed, it acts as a bulwark against the acceptance of injustice and evil. True, anger is occasioned by numerous stimuli, and sometimes anger, when indiscriminate for example, can be a bad thing, but it is nevertheless a precondition of resistance to oppression and injustice, as well as to the assertion of one's dignity and self-respect, and is therefore often a necessity.

Cledwyn Bulbs wrote:Nothing to worry about, anger is a universal emotion we all have to deal with. The most important thing is to not let that anger become a spur to violence, and to focus it on the people deserving of this ire. To find anger disturbing is a reflex conditioned by a culture that pathologizes it and has no understanding of how when transmuted or focused on the right people and injustice and oppression, it has great utility. On top of this, intellectuals throughout history have assured its negative reputation with their usually negative views on the subject. Anger can be a very important emotion regulating the maintenance of self-respect; when someone does you wrong, such as stealing your money, or insulting you in some way, to respond with anger is a defence to feelings that threaten your self-esteem, a way of asserting your dignity in the face of humilation.

How else should one respond to oppression, to disease, to someone else's affront to your dignity and humanity? The derogation of anger may have a long intellectual pedigree, but anger is nevertheless nothing to be ashamed of; indeed, it acts as a bulwark against the acceptance of injustice and evil. True, anger is occasioned by numerous stimuli, and sometimes anger, when indiscriminate for example, can be a bad thing, but it is nevertheless a precondition of resistance to oppression and injustice, as well as to the assertion of one's dignity and self-respect, and is therefore often a necessity.

Wow, nice explanation, makes sense, i didnt know those things (i wasnt sarcastic btw).