dont no what im doing

Hello everyone,

I just want to ask about my anger its hard to explain but i get very very angry over something that i don't really know and when i get angry i cant feel anything and i don't know what im doing or why im doing it but i get very angry just talking about. when i get angry i start shaking and all my mussels tense up and cant control my self im trying just to walk away from things but then i start punching things not people but im scared of my self because if i got in a fight i wouldn't stop but i don't know im doing it E.g. (im 16) in my old school my friend was joking around by saying fight me and i walked over there knowing it was a joke and he pushed me and from then on i didn't know i did this but i punched him back and punched him in the head but i didn't know it happened please help me because i don't know what to do and i cant take anymore of this. Thanks

DaWigster,


When I was your age, I used to get angry easily as well. Sometimes the slightest things would set me off and I'd be angry for hours, unable to think of anything but it. Fast forward nine years later, and I am very much at piece and in-control of my anger, and I will tell you how.

First off, you have to realize that you are in control, not the anger. You have the power to turn it on or off, so you have to own the blame for when it gets out of hand because you let it get to be like that. Nobody else is responsible for what you do when you are angry. Trust me, I had to learn that the hard way.

Second, the easiest way to control your anger is to make a commitment to yourself to not get angry anymore. Whenever you do, do not get violent (e.g. do not punch pillows, things, people etc) but rather close your eyes and take deep breaths.
-When you are doing this, focus only on breathing in and breathing out. Imagine that there is a purple orb in your chest, and it represents your spirit. When you breathe in, white energy flows into your orb to purify it, and when you breathe out, imagine breathing out the purple negative energy. (This has worked for me for years and I learned it in a Tai Chi Class, which I recommend taking.)

Last, is to piggyback off the breathing exercise, and that is to study meditation. It will not only help control your anger, but also clear your mind and help you live more in the moment. Not living in the moment is a big cause of stress because your mind is constantly working and not getting a chance to rest.
-The mind is like everything else in your body, it needs rest. When it does not get rest it gets irritated and does not function normally. Rest your mind, and your anger will certainly go away.