My Nephew is going to end up in prison

My Nephew, 19, is extremely violent and completely incapable of looking after himself.

He can't even attend centrelink appointments to keep his payments going because he is too busy playing his computer obsessively 24/7.

I have witnessed him threaten to bash some girl who said something about his clothing once. He was going crazy saying he was going to stab her to death etc.

He has youngest sisters, and has always, since a young child bashed them. But now he is 19 and calls his 17 and 16 year old sisters whores, and has hit them/ abused them various times. He seems to feel entitled to take out his anger on women, his father used to bash his mother very violently.

He has had some feedback. A couple of times when he has tried to bash his sisters other guys have stepped in and bashed his face in. Just one month ago he had his nose broken because he was trying to hurt his sister and his cousin stepped in. Then a few days later somebody again hit him when he struck his sister in the head, and he got a black eye. But it doesn't seem to want to stop him.

He is totally dysfunctional but I don't know what is wrong with him.

These are two things he does that I dont know how to explain.

He is 19 but wets the bed nightly. Not only that he plays his computer 24/7 and doesn't get up to go to the toilet he just urinates in the chair, I can only assume because he can't be bothered getting up to go to the toilet. He has also been caught eating his own faeces on numerous occasions.

He takes absolutely know responsibility for his actions, but blames EVERYONE else for everything. he goes mental when he doesn't have anything he wants, energy drinks, food, his computer isn't working etc and DEMANDS VIOLENTLY that others fix his problems for him. He always jokes about killing his sisters and mothers, and actually threatens this for real when he is angry. A few years ago he stabbed his sister in the arm causing several stitches, and showed NO REMORSE, even when she came back from the doctor he was screaming "I AM GOING TO SLIT YOUR THROAT NEXT TIME, WHORE!"

In my opinion he is incapable of having empathy or considering the needs of others, its like he see's people as "tools" to get what he wants, and if they don't give him what he wants he tries to intimate them with violence.

He lives at his mums, has never had a job, and she provides EVERYTHING for him, but I think she will kick him out sooner or later due to his constant abuse. He constantly abuses everyone and CONSTANTLY criticizes everyone around him.

He doesn't believe there is anything wrong with himself, he has a ridiculously expanded ego opinion of himself, he thinks he is totally fantastic and frequently tells others how great he is etc, in fact if others dont' treat him like he is great he gets violent.

I have never met anyone else like him, he is just "on his own wavelength".

This is only a brief description of what he is like. I seriously worry about his potential to hurt or kill his sisters or mother.

I guess I am waiting for something to happen and for him to be arrested, I am wondering if prison might actually be what this guy needs. I mean he is 100% incapable of managing his finances or anything, and is the most way over the top aggressive person I have ever met. He has spastics over the smallest things, like the door not opening properly, its like he is always on the verge of exploding in anger.

If he's punched and stabbed people, "something" has already happened. Why hasn't anyone reported him to the police yet? The feedback he's had seems to be tit-for-tat. A hits B, C will hit A. = hitting is OK.

It would have been better for it to be reported while he was a minor as he'd be more likely to get positive help and this wouldn't be on his permanent record. As it stands, he's an adult in the law of most countries but he doesn't seem mentally competent. I think he would benefit from a psych review and some intensive support through therapy. Ideally inpatient to get him away from his family who are at risk. This isn't a "temper tantrum" issue that can be reasoned with over time, it seems much more serious.

Is this something you can step in on? His younger sisters [and mum] don't deserve to be in an abusive environment.

Ada wrote:If he's punched and stabbed people, "something" has already happened. Why hasn't anyone reported him to the police yet? The feedback he's had seems to be tit-for-tat. A hits B, C will hit A. = hitting is OK.

It would have been better for it to be reported while he was a minor as he'd be more likely to get positive help and this wouldn't be on his permanent record. As it stands, he's an adult in the law of most countries but he doesn't seem mentally competent. I think he would benefit from a psych review and some intensive support through therapy. Ideally inpatient to get him away from his family who are at risk. This isn't a "temper tantrum" issue that can be reasoned with over time, it seems much more serious.

Is this something you can step in on? His younger sisters [and mum] don't deserve to be in an abusive environment.

He has avoided much police scrutiny so far, which I think is just good luck (from his perspective). I don't have direct involvement with the situation any more, but I will strongly advocate to the family that if he assaults them or even threatens serious violence that the police should probably be called. He definitely need a very strong "society will not tolerate this behavior" message, but your right he also needs lots of intensive support. Ultimately he is a victim of a very bad childhood, and he did have a stroke when he was born, due to his mother methamphetamine usage, he also had to have a massive operation removing part of his intestines, and he very nearly died (indeed I believe they had to bring him back multiple times). I suspect the damage he received to his brain may play some part in this (not the only factor), but he has always been very obsessive with things, and just not on the same social wavelength as others. I will definitely have a talk to the family.

I have dealt with individuals who are affected by this anger/rage issue. When psychology has no answers and medical science is scratching their heads, it points to a spiritual issue. Anger and rage are spirits. Demons if you will. The demons need to be cast out. I have seen anger/rage manifest in women who would talk with a man's voice, toss full grown men around like toothpicks. As soon as the demons get cast out, there are no longer any anger/rage issues to deal with. My recommendation is to take this individual to someone who believes in the name and power of the Blood of Jesus and have this demon cast out of him. Otherwise, he will be tormented for the rest of his life. Another possibility is that he will be incarcerated for murder.

You might want to set a cross on fire and burn it into his forehead but most demons these days are about a level15 so not so scared.

BUT something I see you paid attention to is brain injury which can go on to develop mental illnesses like schizophrenia. But more importantly brain injury can cause increased aggression, anger and also something you should be watchful for is increased sexuality. People with brain injuries can continue heading down the same path and increasing these symptoms as they go. It often goes untreated and uncared for.

I'm no expert in this type of condition, but I'll try to say the most logical things.

If he (your nephew) hits his sisters and ended up in stabbing, I think it should have dealt like a "normal family issue". From then on, your sister should have asked for help from the authorities and doctors. This situation is not anywhere "normal" and should be dealt with appropriately with experts help. Drag him to a hospital if you have too, a professional should be asked for help, before the slitting of the throat actually happen.

charlottechiro wrote:I'm no expert in this type of condition, but I'll try to say the most logical things.

If he (your nephew) hits his sisters and ended up in stabbing, I think it should have dealt like a "normal family issue". From then on, your sister should have asked for help from the authorities and doctors. This situation is not anywhere "normal" and should be dealt with appropriately with experts help. Drag him to a hospital if you have too, a professional should be asked for help, before the slitting of the throat actually happen.

But they might all end up down there...

Sorry to hear this.I hope your nephew will learn from that.