Bad underserved anger

hello i have a problem and it has cost me relationships over and over again. For some reason whenever i start getting close with someone i seem to develop anger over the littlest of things that shouldnt matter and i hold on to the anger and bring it up every time i get angry again it doesnt stop just keeps getting worse n worse. My temper flairs into a violent screeming and profanity rage and i dont know when to stop. this problem caused me to recently loose a lovely woman i was dating as it happened several times over no reason. I start to hold things i do for them over there head, get jelious, and controlling. I dont know why when nuthing was done wrong to me at all. so please any help or advice would be appreciated i need help fast so i can once again be a happy person