Need help and advice

Hi everyone...

I just needed to post to get some advice to help myself. I was just online reading about alcoholism and got a little concerned.

I work 2 jobs and come home everynight to a house alone. My fiance goes to school during the day and works at night managing a new restuarant.

I usually come home, do a few things around the house and then have about 4-6 beers while i watch a movie and/or catch up on tv shows on my computer outside.

It has become a routine. i do not drink with the intent or expectation of being/feeling drunk. I just drink and smoke some cigarettes and relax. I have recently started to feel guilty about this. I don't drink unless I am home with nothing else to do. My house is immaculately clean, i work hard, my job performance is wonderful. I guess I am just concerned about the amount I drink a week.

Am I an alcoholic? If I am away on vacation or busy, the thought of alcohol does not cross my mind. I feel like I have just fallen into a pattern and am trying to figure out if it is a dangerous one.

On the surface you do not seem to be an alcoholic. If alcohol causes problems, alcohol is a problem. What you said seems to show you have no problem. However, what would people close to you say?

You may not be an alcoholic, but with the continual drinking at your level you may get some side effects, mostly a beer belly. Alochol is empty calories, just as many foods that Americans love. Over the years, you might gain weight and start getting warnings from your doctor about the many diseases associated with being overweight.

Good Luck,
Jim S

Hi Roxy,

Things look pretty much under control right now. However, it might change if you’re off guard. Alcohols are harmful for body in any which way, so better refrain consuming them. FYI- one great resource on alcoholism: http://www.drugabuse.com/alcohol-abuse.html . Good Luck!

I smoke regularly and smoke more than 1 and half packet i really want to quit it now but how ever i am trying its not happening. Please help me to overcome. I can stay without smoking 2 weeks but after that i cann't control myself so what to do. help me with any kind of advice. Thanks

unless you lied roxynala (a very STRONG indicator of
alcoholism) your probably not alcoholic,

however,

doesn't mean you should just because you can.

non-alcoholics do foolish regrettable things and take
unnecessary losses too, just far less often than the
alcoholic miser who sees no other way out.

i was recently among a bachelor party that spent about 350$
on booze, which loosened up the wallets for gambling and
lapdances. to the tune of about twice 350$

without alcohol, RIPPERS would have a lot less power
to RIP, and casinos have a lot less power to ... also RIP

(i was the only alcoholic in the party, and didnt drink a drop,
gambled and lost 10$, and did not get conned into a lapdance
it was the non alcoholics causing all the trouble this time)

ag.

Hey Roxy,

In answer to your question "Am I an alcoholic?", here are a few things to consider. The experts say if you've experienced any three or more of the following over the past twelve months, you would be a candidate for alcohol dependency.

Tolerance: Either taking more to achieve the same effect, or taking the same amount that has less effect.

Withdrawal: Either experiencing characteristic withdrawal symptoms for a substance, or doing something to avoid or relieve withdrawal symptoms.

Usage: Either the amount used or duration of use, is more than what was intended.

Control: Either trying repeatedly to control usage or reduce usage.

Time: Either using, recovering from use, or trying to get the substance to use, is how a considerable amount of time gets spent.

Blinkers On: Either reducing or abandoning important work, social activities and/or leisure activities to focus on using.

Negative Consequences: Continuing to use in spite of being aware of developing physical or psychological problems.

You're in a great position right now to shift the existing pattern of how you spend your time alone at home, before things progress any further. Afterall, addiction is a progressive condition.

Hope this helps.

Take care,

Tashina
www.psychologicalhealingandyoga.com