problem with drink or problem with partner?

i like a couple of glasses or rum and coke of a saturday night while watching a film. i dont crave drink, i have drink in my home and dont feel the need to hit the bottle even when stressed. if me and my partner go out with friends i have a few glasses of wine....and this is where the problem is for me. i dont think i have a problem...but partner does. we go out, i have a few drinks with our friends, he doesnt drink, have a good laugh with friends and then i can guarantee that next day he will accuse me of making a fool of myself, being terribly drunk( which i know i wasnt) and embarassing him. yet when i ask friends they tell me i was fine..yeah a bit loud but we all were. over the years hes taken me out less and less and i find myself having to watch my tongue and actions everytime we do eventualy go out......but when ive had a drink i loosen up and like a giggle. yeah i am loud, tell dirty jokes etc....but i dont flash my boobs, come on to his mates, start fights!. im just a bit silly. my mum died of alcoholic liver disease and hep c........and hes making me feel like im heading down the same road. im sure this is just a relationship issue but realy wanted some input.

i stress im not being a typical alcoholic and hiding the fact i drink excessivley...i realy do only have 2 or 3 drinks of a weekend.nothing during the week, i can go without. thanx

Jocasey…

Two things occur to me,
#1 Do you go out with your boyfriend and friends and not drink at all very often? Is it still fun to party without alcohol? Or does the evening just go a bit flat without that social lubricant?

And #2, Is there a alcohol issue in his past, maybe a parent or someone else close to him who got into trouble with alcohol and that memory flavors his attitude toward it?

One last thing, dieters are asked to keep a journal of everything they eat. Write down every bite they take in 24 hours. They are sometimes surprised at how much they ate and were not really aware of doing so. Maybe you could try that too.

Richard

funny u should say about the keeping of a dietry diary..im following the slimmers world diet and i note down all my drinks and food. i measure out my allowance of alchohol if i have any. so i know im not drinking more than i think. its seriously two small glasses of wine or two single shots of rum. but im a cheap date lol and can get quite tipsey on such a small amount.

we dont get to out very much....babysitters and money issues...plus the fact my partner doesnt like to socialise and makes stupid excuses to not go. so sometimes it feels like ive got to fit a whole six months of not going out into one night if ya know what i mean. i do go out and meet friends and not drink.

i dont think he has any past issues with alcohol...his family dont drink as his father is diabetic and his mum has some health problems. he doesnt realy talk about his past so wouldnt know about any previous girlfriends as he refuses to talk about it.

had a chat with my sister about it today....had it pointed out that even when i havent had a drink he will critisize me..that its not a drink related problem.after a long think i realise he just doesnt want to go out socaily with me. and i think the put downs are related to making me feel embarassed about myself and so not wanting to face people. i realised hes platying a nasty mind game..he knows how scared i am of becoming an addict like my late mother...and hes playing on it.

thanx for replying...going to talk with some close friends and have a think where this relationship is going thanx again