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Alcohol has ruined my life

Postby loosingit72 » Sat Sep 19, 2015 9:27 pm

i have truly hit rock bottom, and i see no way out. I recently lost temporary custody of my daughter, who means absolutely everything to me, until i can get back on my feet, but i see no way to do that. I have no job, no drivers license and no car. I have applied everywhere within walking distance, including fast food restaurants. I am college educated, but not too proud to work anywhere. There is no public transportation in the small town where i live, and not much around.

I have admitted that i have a drinking problem and sought help. I am no longer drinking and am actively participating in intensive treatment. However, because of the DUI's I have received, it is impossible for me to get my license back. I own a car, but it is currently broken down, and stuck in my yard. I have considered moving closer to a bus route, but lack the funds for the move and all the deposits. Im in debt up to my eyeballs with attorney fees, and about to be evicted from the house where we have lived for 4 years. I have looked into a ton of "work at home" jobs, but none seem legit, and ALL want money invested up front.

I cant get my daughter back until i find a job, and cant seem to find a job with no transportation. (no....i dont know anyone i can carpool with. i live in a very small town, with mostly older retired people)I cant get any help from local government agencies because they will only help people with children in the home (my daughter has always lived with me, up until 2 weeks ago). Any advice about how to get back on my feet would be greatly appreciated. im doing everything i can to turn this situation around, but it seems hopeless. Cant seem to fix one problem without first fixing another.
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Re: Alcohol has ruined my life

Postby Bill4315 » Sun Sep 20, 2015 6:10 am

I'm really sorry to hear about your problems. What they recommend in twelfth step groups is Helping Others. This is a key point most all therapists seem to miss out on. Not that they can't be helpful anyway but the emphasis should be different.
You can go to meetings on-line and help others who use this web-site. Believe it or not there are people on this site suffering more than yourself,( not to downplay what your going through) this gives you a chance to help them or at least relate with them so they don't think they are alone with their problems.
Hope you and your situation get better. *mod edit*
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Re: Alcohol has ruined my life

Postby Oliveira » Sun Sep 20, 2015 8:50 am

Hi,

sorry if this is a silly idea, but... you mention your town is quite small. How about getting a second hand bicycle?

The rock bottom is good... because it means the only way is up. The "work at home" jobs are 99% scams to squeeze money from you. You've subsidised the alcohol factories enough, don't subsidise scammers further.

You mention that you are about to be evicted -- that's terrible, and I am sorry it is happening to you. At the same time though perhaps it is a chance to move elsewhere? Stay on a friend's couch in a town with more job opportunities?

Big hugs. I hope things get better soon.
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Re: Alcohol has ruined my life

Postby loosingit72 » Sun Sep 20, 2015 12:23 pm

thanks for the suggestions :) ive actually considered getting a bike, but what there is around here is pretty close and the next town is about 30 miles away (doesnt sound far, but further than i can bike). Moving to a bigger town would be a great idea, but im lucky enough to get my daughter some on the weekends, and it was ordered that she remain in her school, so i dont want to go anywhere. Since im trying desperately to get her back home i dont want to do anything that will look bad in the eyes of the court. Shas been through so much, im trying to keep things as "normal" as possible......ie her room, her school, her activities etc, Not looking like thats going to happen. Again, thanks for the advice.
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