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fr3nzy17…

you said
“I do think the main reason I drink is because my dad is more or less an alcoholic”

Not true!

You drink because if what you said earlier in your post…
”I feel alcohol will make me forget the pain, or it will "magically" solve all my problems.”

Bingo! That is why we drink. Not because someone else we live with drinks, but because drinking changes our crappy perception of reality, and changes it fast.

The real question we might want to ask is why do we need to alter our take on reality so desperately? That odd and compelling quark in our makeup needs to be addressed before we can get and stay sober.

“but look at me now. If I continue, I'll be just like him in no time”

I suspect you are right about that one. Over enough time it gets worse, it will get a lot worse than it is now. You know that.

Then you asked the best question…
“What should I do?”

Find an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting, there are meetings that are full of young people just like you. Find one and avail yourself of what they have to offer.

Richard

You sound a lot like me. I told myself a million times that I would never drink like my dad--but I passed him up real quick. Alcoholism has a major genetic component--so if your father has a drinking problem, you have an increased chance of having one also. But, it does take a certain amount of drinking to cross the line into alcoholism. For some, it may be just a few times of drinking--for others it may take years. You probably could quit on your own if you stop right away. The more you drink, the more often you drink; the greater the chance that you will become just another drunken alcoholic.

For me, I drank small amounts for a few years. I controled my drinking for a number of years--even making the dean's list and the wrestling team. However, eventually I lost all control and nearly lost my life. Alcohol can be cunning--it's affects can sneak up on you. Drinking took away all my fears and worries. It worked well for a few years. But, when I finally wanted to moderate or stop, I could not do it.

You may want to go to some open AA meetings, idenify yourself as just a visitor and just listen to some of the people. There are some online meetings also--I have a link to some on my webpage.
Good Luck,
Jim S

Hi fr3nzy17, guys of your age who have developed a drinking problem but are well aware of the fact that what they are doing is not right, often come up with questions like, what they should do in order to get rid of this problem. Most of the people start drinking with this thought that this will help them in forgetting their pain and solve their problems MAGICALLY, as you mentioned. But this can never be true, as you can well understand by now. But no need to worry, there are a number of rehab programs in order to help people like you, who genuinely want to come out of such problems. Firstly, you need to be committed to make a change for the better. Then the next thing you can do is, you can actually go for some AA meetings as mentioned by shadowalker164 and jims, or you can go for some rehab programs. These are actually very helpful. If you need, I can give you more information on these rehab programs. Hope you will soon get the answers for all your questions. Good Luck!

it was a few years ago when i was 19 I developed my problem, i fealt life was going nowhere and then my mom died and i broke down

i'm 16 and have a family history of alcoholism. i don't think i'm an alcoholic... yet. thing is i'm extremely shy and i've tied therapy since i was 12 but so far it's done next to nothing to help my phobia. the only thing that aleviates my fear of screwing up socially is a drink (or two or 5). drinking stems from deeper issues so i guess you could try therapy to work thru some of these issues. therapy doesn't do it for me but i know some who have really improved w/ some good ol' shrinkage.

First and Foremost would be the state law. Is it legal?

People in general, when they drink- do not make smart choices.
I haven't seen it yet, including me myself.

sad, but true,
red

do you think alcoholics care if it's legal? are you an alcoholic? have you ever even had a drink? oh i get it you have some family member who drinks and you want to warn us of the dangers. my mother died of alcohol poisoning i wasn't born yesterday.

that was much more defensive than it needed to be.

Lol, this could turn ugly...
frenzy, you said you have a drinking problem...If you dont do it so often why is it a problem?
I used to be kinda like you, drink anything and everything whenever I got a chance, but I never considered it as a problem, I just thought it was fun...and then I got sick ALOT and learnt my lesson...I dont drink very often nowadays.
I think the real question is if you know you dont want to drink, then why do you? Too impulsive maybe?