AD and dating

Hey folks! I'm brand new here. I work at an environmental non-profit in Philadelphia and I'm in school part time. My official diagnosis is Adjustment Disorder with Anxiety and Depression.
I'm a month into dating someone, we'll call him Tom here. He is awesome and supportive and actually deals with some of his own mental health challenges, so he is able to relate. Anyway, I have huge anxiety flare-ups when dating someone new. It is as though my nebulous terror takes my emotions by the throat and forcibly deadens both nascent love and, yes, sex drive. I've had to stop the physical proceedings twice when I was just too anxious to enjoy it. Tom has been wonderful in that he takes me at my word when I tell him he isn't the cause, and prioritizes time and closeness with me above sex. The problem is, sometimes when my anxieties are in full swing they can stifle my feelings towards him entirely, and at those times it feels like I'll never be able to relax into our connection. I know from experience that if I can hang in there through the initial month or two, things will improve, but at the moment it is a total rollercoaster on my end and it stinks. Does all this sound familiar to anyone? If so, what has helped, if anything? At the moment, I'm just doing my best to remember that my fears don't control me, and that it will get better. Thank you so much for reading, I appreciate any feedback. I'm basically just looking for common ground and shared experience, though advice is welcome.

I received the same diagnosis on my way out of the Marines (Adjustment Disorder with mixed anxiety and depression) and your experience sounds similar to mine. In fact I think it may be what led to the end of my last dating relationship, although that was before I was diagnosed. I don't have much in the way of advice but I was wondering how the last two months went for you and if you've learned anything you can share?