Adjustment Disorders

I have spent the last two days searching for a forum on Adjustment Disorders. There's a lot of information out there, but not many mental health forums that focus speficially on this disorder. This is the only one I have found so far so I hope that I am in the right place. I guess I am hoping to find others who have felt as I have because I feel alone with this). Has anyone been diagnosed with an adjustment disorder? I have and as trivial as it sounds, the suffering is severe! Any major life change (or anything that I perceive as a major life change) causes me such pain it's unbelievable. The first time I discovered this was when I moved out of my parents house. I was twenty-eight years old and more than ready to leave. I picked a place that I loved and could afford, and had a decent job. My boyfriend (now husband) loaded up his truck with all of my stuff and he helped me move. The minute the final box was unloaded and placed in my new living room...the tears started, then the panic, then the severe depression. This went on for two weeks with absolutely no break. I couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, stopped functioning, and eventually lost my job. I ran back home, but there was no peace to be found there. Eventually, I moved in with my boyfriend and was put on medication. I pulled through in time, but was left bewildered and ashamed of my reaction to the move. I've had this reaction to situations since that time, such as getting pregnant, adopting a dog, getting a new job, etc. It's embarrassing and debilitating and I am going through yet another episode right now! Can anyone identify because as wonderful as my husband is...he doesn't understand it -- AT ALL!

One thing I can say is you're not alone, I have the same problem. I am 22 and live at home, and the idea of moving out freaks me out. I stayed with my friend for a while and was thinking about moving out, and I just couldn't stop bawling, it was awful. I'm trying to find the answer myself, and I'm trying to take it a day at a time.

Hi there,

I am 27 and still live with my parents. I feel much the same way you do - I long to have a place of my own but something always stops me from taking that step.

Last Thursday I was diagnosed with (in addition to a seven-year clinical depression and more recent borderline personality disorder) emotional adjustment disorder. Like you, I've been searching for some information about it. It's not easy.

But hopefully this site will help you - and me too - to come to terms with it and find a way out of the situations that we're in!

Good luck.

Emma (littleme) x x

intp wrote:I have spent the last two days searching for a forum on Adjustment Disorders. There's a lot of information out there, but not many mental health forums that focus speficially on this disorder. This is the only one I have found so far so I hope that I am in the right place. I guess I am hoping to find others who have felt as I have because I feel alone with this). Has anyone been diagnosed with an adjustment disorder? I have and as trivial as it sounds, the suffering is severe! Any major life change (or anything that I perceive as a major life change) causes me such pain it's unbelievable. The first time I discovered this was when I moved out of my parents house. I was twenty-eight years old and more than ready to leave. I picked a place that I loved and could afford, and had a decent job. My boyfriend (now husband) loaded up his truck with all of my stuff and he helped me move. The minute the final box was unloaded and placed in my new living room...the tears started, then the panic, then the severe depression. This went on for two weeks with absolutely no break. I couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, stopped functioning, and eventually lost my job. I ran back home, but there was no peace to be found there. Eventually, I moved in with my boyfriend and was put on medication. I pulled through in time, but was left bewildered and ashamed of my reaction to the move. I've had this reaction to situations since that time, such as getting pregnant, adopting a dog, getting a new job, etc. It's embarrassing and debilitating and I am going through yet another episode right now! Can anyone identify because as wonderful as my husband is...he doesn't understand it -- AT ALL!

Hello littleme,

I have dx'd major depression recurrent. I remember the last time I had to move. It was from an small one bedroom to a much larger house. I did the same thing. I mourned my moving. I never gave it a thought that I would be unhappy later.

I guess is this disorder goes undx'd alot. I do understand your feelings.

peace.
red

Hi i have been diagnosed with Adjustment Reaction Disorder- in January 2008. This was because i have so much things in my life that are difficult that im trying to adjust to but it comes out of the wrong way. This has lead me to hear a voice when im anxious and it tell's me to do dangerous things.

I have had custody/guardianship of my 10 yr old niece for about 3 years now. About 1 1/2 months ago she wrote me this awful suicide letter after having a very tearful discussion with her asking questions about is she really here and maybe this is really hell and we just don't know it and things like that. I took her to the ER and she was admitted for 7 days and diagnosed with Post Tramatic Stress, Major Depression and Reactive Attachment Disorder. I've heard of the first two but never heard of the last one. She has had a very difficult life from the beginning. It's a long story but it has become pretty clear she has been abused from the beginning of life. What I've been told so far is that her RAD is probably related to the neglect she received from her parents even when they were still together (1st two years) I understand that but I'm not sure how to help her. Initially after the hospital stay she felt better because she finally had an audience. If you have to pull a positive out of such a horrible situation, that would be it, we finally have people's ears. Having had her and worked with her in school and at home I knew there were symptoms of something greater and from what she would tell me about her life I knew that her life had been horrible. I felt/feel like her warrior, trying to get the adults (parents) to see what I saw, to stop causing her pain but until now I couldn't get them to listen. Still neither of her parents understand but her dad is trying to. Her mother still says one thing and does another disappointed her daughter. She no-showed for her recital. Anyway, I would like to know more about how she thinks and how this Recative Attachment Disorder affects her. We got into a discussion/argument last night about how she should complete a 3D project for school. She wanted to use a toy figure in her project instead of make her project. Anyway, even though I told her it was just my opinion that it was her project, she values my opinion but wants me to want her to use to the toy figure. So the conversation turned into whether or not I hate her. She wrote me a note asking if I hate her. Even though I hug her all the time, hold her hand when we walk and all other ways of affection she says that I push her away. The only time I put up my hands is when her "hug" is falling full weight onto me while I'm sitting and she said that because I do that she thinks I don't really love her. I just don't understand what more I can do. She is more often than not just miserable and so sad. Unless I have her distracted by watching a fun movie or playing cards or something. But there has to be down time. And homework time etc.

I think this depends upon your thoughts and your living style. You can not adjust with those peoples who interferes in all your matters but you compromise there and you can not take this relation for more then times.




AcidReflux

im convinced that i have an "adjustment disorder" i seem to have problems making and maintaining friendships with people, i also drink quite heavily to cope with my condition, i was referred to a clinical psychologist 5 years ago and various psychiatrists, but they have discharged me from there service as they feel "there's nothing more they can do"and also in 06, i also have been ateending AA for 12 years but have a problem mixing with people etc.the psychologist i attended is not convined i have a problem, i feel let down by the local services and have become very angry towards them, they feel that i am not trying to help myself, i live alone and am very isolated, i contact people but they wont respond which indicates that thay are fed up with me, talking about my problems etc. i seem to be emotionally "stuck" and desperately want out of this emotional darkness i am currently in.