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Postby Saraluna » Wed Apr 26, 2006 11:23 pm

I'm a young person whose had a history of extreme fear of people in general, especially public situations and oral presentations, and I'm starting to get over that this year. I recently got into a relationship, but I'm terrified of it. On one hand, I'm not sure if I've ever been truly attracted to someone. The guy I'm going out with now is wodnerful and loves me, but I don't want to do a lot of things that couples to with each other, and I'm terrified of kissing or anything remotely related. I don't know what to do, we were good friends before we started dating, and I really looked forwards to seeing him before we started going out, but now the sight of him fills me with fear. Will I like kissing after I've gotten over my fear and done it? Should I break up with him? How can I do that when he's such a great person and it could ruin our friendship? I really have no reason to break up with him either, he's been an amazing bf, we have a lot in common. What should I do?
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Postby still the one » Wed Jun 21, 2006 1:10 am

Enjoy it. Trust me. Loath urself up in him.. If he truely loves you, do not be afraid of him. Everyone has the potiential to hurt you and I've learned that, and I've learned to expect it from the people you think wouldnt hurt you...but they can....However do not hold yourself back from living because you are afraid to get hurt....My LONG time boyfriend just broke up with me...and I am lost...completely lost...however life goes on....fill yourself up with fun and happy memories that will stay with you in your life forever. You will always remember them expecially when your having a bad day and need a good laugh...

Learn to love people even though we all have faults...and even when its hard...learn to forgive...it will help you to be more happy and comfortable with yourself so then you can open up to others.

P.S. if he is a sweet enough man to be understanding to your situation and your feelings...then yes...he is worth it...and you will love kissing him...when you are truely in love -- kissing is like the whole world has stopped and all eyes are on you...its like NOTHING else matters and that everythings going to be okay....and i know that...even though my boyfriend and I broke up...we were truely in love and it was amazing...and even though I am so completely heart broken -- deep down I never regretted a MINUTE of it.

hope this helps...god bless
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