Hi,
Ive been thinking about this day and night, 24/7 and its driving me crazy. I have a friend who is dealing with her gender identity. She says she feels like a boy and really wants to be a boy. I never knew something like this existed and it took me off guard. I searched about it a lot and found out that it might be Gender Dysphoria but I am not sure. The thing is I feel like her feelings stem from being different than other girls, but to me its different in a good way. She doesnt conform to the belief that girls like makeup and barbies and dresses. She focuses on more important stuff in life which i find very admirable. Anyway, before she told me I honestly had no clue whatsoever. She says she doesnt act like a girl but to me shes one of the best girls out there. She talks so kindly and compassionately and shes an emotional person. When I talk to her, I dont feel like im talking to a guy AT ALL. So I am just really confused. I tried talking to her parents about this and they said that they think it just has to do with her weight and that she feels ugly. But from what she tells me, its something she said shes struggled with her whole life. She said shes always felt like a boy and that people have treated her like one and told her she doesnt act or look or sound like a girl which I also dont understand because she has a beautiful voice and she is also so beautiful as well. She is a little overweight and that has always bothered her like crazy. Anyway, shes also told me that she feels like a lie and that she doesnt feel like shes in the right body. She wears clothes from the male section but to me, theyre just t-shirts. A lot of people wear guy clothes. I didnt know that she got them from the male section. It wasnt noticeable to me. She went through a lot of bullying and people calling her fat and ugly a lot. She said she was physically abused and I think she almost confessed to being sexually harassed as well. So I thought, maybe she began wanting to be a boy so she could be stronger than her harassers. To me, from all the experiences ive heard from her, it seems like an escape from her real identity. She wants to be as far from herself as possible because of her depression and anxiety and paranoia. But at the same time, I cant get passed the words she tells me of her feeling like a lie and not accepting being a girl. It makes me cry that she feels this way. My question is, does anyone have any experiences with this? Do you think she is dealing with Gender Dysphoria? She said she would never do surgery to transition because I dont think she likes the male lower part, but at the same time she doesnt want to look like a girl or be referred to as a girl. The environment she lives around is very gender-stereotypical so I thought maybe that would add to it as well. Any answer would help. I just wanted to clear my mind because its been driving me crazy. She is 17 btw. What are your thoughts on it? Do you think she is dysphoric? and why or why not. Im not even sure if this topic can be placed here. I appreciate anything. Im just really worried about her. Thank you