snaga2.0 wrote:If it were ME? I'd suck it up and be miserable. For the children. I wouldn't throw away a good wife, my relationship with my children, and a career. But that's just me- I have a high sense of obligation.
You say you've always felt different... have you always felt from earliest memory, that you should have been a girl? Did the idea come along later? Are you wanting to make a complete physical transformation?
I ask, not because I'm trying to talk you out of it or anything, but I know in my own life I've gone thru times that I thought I'm trans, I'm not, I'm trans, I'm not.... for me it was the combination of screening tests (such as the COGIATI, S.A.G.E.) and sitting back and thinking it through that convinced me I wasn't trans, no matter how much (at one time) I wanted to be trans. I've settled on considering myself gender balanced, to an extent, and I'm okay with that. I'm just curious as to how long you've thought this way, how you came to the conclusion, etc., such as therapy, screenings, etc.
Just don't want to see anyone make a rash decision, y'know? Being trans is a huge thing.
snaga2.0 wrote:If it were ME? I'd suck it up and be miserable. For the children. I wouldn't throw away a good wife, my relationship with my children, and a career. But that's just me- I have a high sense of obligation.
Snaga wrote:So few being a relative term? Seems a fair amount of girls with a little something extra on cam chat sites....
Which, were I as trans as I once wondered about being, is as far as I'd go. I know the porn industry term 'shemale' is generally frowned upon, but that idea has always appealed to me, as while I'm not effeminate to look at right off, inside I feel rather androgynous. Most serious online gender tests label me as balanced, if not slightly female. The idea of having a combination of sexual characteristics is very appealing to me.
No, with respect to previous poster, I stand by my rather harsh statement. I'd normally be very supportive here, I have a soft spot for anyone who genuinely feels transsexual, until the words Wife and especially Children got used. That changes the equation. Were I trans is be all for being myself- had I no obligations to others. That changes the game. Children don't deserve such upheaval. I also take marriage vows seriously. Wife did sign up for better or worse, but you think you know what you're getting, too. I don't say that to be mean. That's what I'd tell myself if I were in the op's shoes. That's how I'm wired. Children override self. Parents have to do that all the time.
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