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How to get my $#%^ together!

Postby Decorator75 » Tue Jan 08, 2019 9:32 am

Hello

Probably some kind of stupid question cause its all on me but need some help or tips. Situation is like this. I separated in april 2018. Have 2 small boys. So separation was rough and was not smooth sailing and definitely left some mark. I kind of have a little of addictive personality and some self esteem issues. First months was great I was enjoying free time but now the blues started to kick in. I began drinking more, sometimes just sitting by myself downing 3 beers. I smoke too much. I look like $#%^ tired and my motivation and will is going down extremely. Dont know if I am really depressed but definitely feeling down. The problem is I cant get out of the mud. I just feel that constant craving for tobaco and alcohol and all other things dont make sense to me. I started seeing also a new girl and she is 30 miles away. We see each other on weekends. I dont know what my feelings are for her and if I want this or not. Thanks
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Re: How to get my $#%^ together!

Postby Decorator75 » Thu Jan 10, 2019 9:34 am

Hm 100000 members, 100 views and no one has anything to say. Whats the purpose of this board again. So nothing new at all. Its every man by himself as usual.
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Re: How to get my $#%^ together!

Postby Wally58 » Thu Jan 10, 2019 10:06 pm

Have you spoke with a social worker, counselor or doctor? An increased use of alcohol and tobacco might seem to help with stress levels, but it can harm you as well. It can prevent us from dealing with life things that really need to be dealt with while thinking straight.
I quit alcohol and tobacco both at the same time because I always used them both together. An AA meeting may be a good place to unload some of the pain. There are church groups, PTA and other fellowship groups that welcome new members with something to offer.
I only got my S#%^ together after it hurt bad enough to really want to.
You don't have to do this alone and it usually helps to do this with others who are going through the same issues.
Best of luck to you. :D
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Re: How to get my $#%^ together!

Postby GoswellDivorce » Thu May 02, 2019 2:24 pm

I have the same exact feelings except at the end of the day I know life is what I want it to be. People are easily manipulated and predictable. Making choices that benefit you. Dont make choices to help others but know that helping others will only benefit you more. Continue to self reflect and manipulate your way to become the person you want to be. This has helped me a ton. If people think im a good person then it makes me want to be a better person in return getting more from them. You do not need to feel bad, because you sound like a caring person. People do not understand that people like us have a hard time making good decisions because we do not understand emotions. Do good things to get good rewards.
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