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Re: Im not sure what to do anymore

Postby NewSunRising » Mon Sep 25, 2017 2:58 am

Sending you hugs Chevy , if you want some .

Addiction doesn't care who it hurts , it exists only to be fed . As hard as it is , sometimes the best thing you can do for someone is remove yourself from the immediate situation and tell them that you love them but you can't be with them while they are still addicted .

This doesn't have to mean that what you had together is over forever and irreparably broken . Addiction can be overcome . It's hard work and it takes time but if he truly commits to recovery and seeks out the help he needs , he can attain it . You are not qualified to provide that help , as much as you may want to be .

Kids know they can get away with a lot more with Mom than they can with strangers . Addicts are no different and often , you will find your love for him being used manipulate you . That is one of the addiction's many survival tactics . Your partner is not a bad man . He's a good man with a bad disease . The hateful , unhappy person you are seeing is the work of that disease and he knows it . He can't stop without help and the addiction is fighting his desire to kill it every step of the way .

Have hope , and learn as much as you can at NA . It will bring you peace of mind and give you valuable tools to cope with his addicted behavior . You will gain your own strength too .
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