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Postby mollymay12 » Tue Oct 24, 2017 12:26 pm

Hi,
I find myself influenced by retailers to over purchase things that I don't need. It makes me depressed when I over buy does anyone else feel the same?
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Re: Shopping addiction

Postby Tyler » Tue Oct 24, 2017 2:08 pm

I feel you. I'm a collector, and by that, I mean I'll collect things by the thousands and rarely use them. CD's, comic books, classical literature, etc. 2500+ comic books, 2000+ CD's, 50 or so classical literature books (and not some cheap paperback, these are bound with REAL leather, and are collectors editions, which means big bucks).

I get the exact same way, and sadly, I'm back down the path. Was clean for a few months, but back to spending, spending, spending! This time, it's vinyl records.
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Re: Shopping addiction

Postby mollymay12 » Thu Oct 26, 2017 11:24 pm

Yeah I'm the same! I'm constant buying clothes. I have so many of the same thing just different versions, my friends all joke I have so may deliveries but I spend basically all my wages on clothes. This past two weeks ive been good and I havent really brought as much and my friends have noticed. Means I've saved so money!
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Re: Shopping addiction

Postby NewSunRising » Fri Oct 27, 2017 1:41 am

Welcome Mollymay12 !

That's great that you have denied the urge to spend for the last 2 weeks . That takes some strength and you should be proud of yourself !

Compulsions are hard to deal with when we're in the middle of them . Most times it's easier to give in to it than fight it off . I found several things that helped me when I was going through them ( I'm a gambling addict ).

I would remind myself that what I was feeling was a compulsion , not an actual desire or need for something . Then I would do something to distract myself for a few minutes to an hour , like take a walk , read a few chapters of a book or do something around the house . It became my habit to tell myself " OK , you can give in to the urge but you have to do ________ first ." By the time I was done with whatever the distraction was , the urge was usually greatly reduced and I was able to ignore it .

The other thing I did was ask myself " Why " I was feeling the compulsion . Most of the answers ended up being boredom , stress and unhappiness . That started me looking at my life and finding ways to address the cause instead of the compulsion .

The first few times I denied the urge , it was hard . It would.not.shut.up . But I kept throwing distractions at it and kept myself away from the places that could trigger it ( casinos , in my case ) and I found that the more I denied my urges , the easier it became to deny the next ones . It does take time though , and it was not a comfortable or pleasant process in the beginning .

I don't have an addiction to " things " , I am addicted to the dopamine rush that comes from gambling , but the mechanics are very similar . There's a little "thrill" that come from what we are doing and that thrill becomes a need for our brains . They love it , they want it , they demand that we give them more of it . It becomes a drug for us and every time we feed it , the desire and need for it grows stronger . My brain was so swamped by the massive dopamine doses I was giving it that anything that would normally make me feel good or happy seemed dull , boring and unsatisfying .

It took about 2 months of denying my urge to gamble before the dopamine levels in my brain returned to normal and I started finding real pleasure in the things I used to do . During that time , I really began to seek out healthy ways to comfort myself when I was bored or stressed or unhappy .

I found that writing things out helped me a lot , so feel free to post here anytime if you are struggling with the compulsion to spend . There's nothing wrong with buying something nice for yourself or having nice things but it's really important to recognize when the addiction is using that as an excuse to feed itself .
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