Our partner

Anybody out there

Forum for the discussion of Shoplifting Addiction and related behavior.

Moderator: NewSunRising

Anybody out there

Postby HopeDESPAIR » Wed Feb 12, 2020 9:07 pm

I left this forum years ago. It was inactive
Has anything improved ??
I need to talk to fellow addicts
HopeDESPAIR
Consumer 1
Consumer 1
 
Posts: 30
Joined: Mon Jul 07, 2014 4:33 pm
Local time: Sun Feb 23, 2020 11:31 am
Blog: View Blog (0)


ADVERTISEMENT

Re: Anybody out there

Postby NewSunRising » Fri Feb 14, 2020 10:16 am

It's been pretty quiet here lately , but you can talk to me if you want to . :)
User avatar
NewSunRising
Site Admin
 
Posts: 4786
Joined: Mon Feb 17, 2014 12:44 am
Local time: Sun Feb 23, 2020 11:31 am
Blog: View Blog (0)

Re: Anybody out there

Postby HopeDESPAIR » Sat Feb 15, 2020 11:24 am

Thank you. Do you have experience of dealing with addiction?
I was caught recently at this. Going to court. If my wife finds out its divorce. Im also nervous about it getting reported.
luckily its not in my local town .
I wont go to jail but might get a conviction.
im hoping for a plea
HopeDESPAIR
Consumer 1
Consumer 1
 
Posts: 30
Joined: Mon Jul 07, 2014 4:33 pm
Local time: Sun Feb 23, 2020 11:31 am
Blog: View Blog (0)

Re: Anybody out there

Postby NewSunRising » Sun Feb 16, 2020 11:18 am

I am a gambling addict in recovery . I have years of experience with the misery of compulsion . It's a horrible thing to have in your life .

I'm sorry for your circumstances . Have you considered therapy ? Compulsive behavior is not simply making poor choices . We don't do these things because we want to , we do them because the urge is overwhelming and it can feel as if we are powerless to deny it .

Quite often , will power is not enough to put a stop to it .
User avatar
NewSunRising
Site Admin
 
Posts: 4786
Joined: Mon Feb 17, 2014 12:44 am
Local time: Sun Feb 23, 2020 11:31 am
Blog: View Blog (0)

Re: Anybody out there

Postby HopeDESPAIR » Sun Feb 16, 2020 5:22 pm

Thanks but hoping to speak to shoplifters
How did you over come you gambling and
HopeDESPAIR
Consumer 1
Consumer 1
 
Posts: 30
Joined: Mon Jul 07, 2014 4:33 pm
Local time: Sun Feb 23, 2020 11:31 am
Blog: View Blog (0)

Re: Anybody out there

Postby NewSunRising » Tue Feb 18, 2020 12:35 am

I put roadblocks up between me and my money . I used a daily self-hypnosis video to cope with the urges . Disclaimer - I did not actually get hypnotized and it did not "cure" me . It did impart a positive message in my mind that made the compulsion easier to deal with . I used distractions . That was key . I made lists of stuff I could do when the urge hit - take a walk , read a few pages of a book , do an online puzzle , sing a song to myself or along with the radio . I tried everything and kept what worked .

At my worst moments , I got in the shower . Can't do squat when you're naked and soaking wet . :D

I found that the longer I could go without giving in to a compulsion , the weaker the compulsion became . In my case , the first 3-6 months were the worst . It was like denying a toddler his toy . My addiction reacted with tantrums - pleading , bargaining , persuading and eventually screaming and demanding that I go and gamble . It was , honestly , Hell . I had no peace .

The voice was in my head from the moment I woke until the moment I went to sleep . Eventually , by not giving in , the screaming became talking , the talking became whispers and the whispers slowed to a stop . I am 5 years in recovery now . The voice still , on rare occasions , pops up " suggesting " that I can go and gamble like normal people do . It's still trying to come back and take over again . But it has no more power over me , nor will it again . I am wise to the lies .


One thing I read stood out to me : An urge will pass whether you act on it or not .

That helped me and I found it to be true .
User avatar
NewSunRising
Site Admin
 
Posts: 4786
Joined: Mon Feb 17, 2014 12:44 am
Local time: Sun Feb 23, 2020 11:31 am
Blog: View Blog (0)


Return to Shoplifting Addiction

Who is online

Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 1 guest