Orgasm leads to Disgust?

Dear Psych Forum

Some women get a strong negative feeling directly after an orgasm. You just want to get away from your partner regardless of how much you like him. Some girls have solved this by not letting themselves climax until after a while, but with all the tricks 2 minutes is still too short.

Have tried working over my passed experiences with bad relationships where sex was only an obligation, but not even this has helped. So how do you learn to have multiple orgasms? How do you avoid that feeling of disgust and anxiety afterwards?

Biologically this is caused by a surge of prolactin after orgasm, kind of an anti-sex hormone. The nausea is probably from the shifting blood flow.

Have tried everything, help!

Hi, Liir! Have you had therapy too? Maybe there's still stuff that you might need to deal with. What were those relationships like?

I think before anything you need to establish the relationship with the man to a deep level. I"m not talkinga bout just liking him, but I mean being strongly in love with him. As of now I'd go to therapy and try to figure out how to detach those old feelings. Like jasmin asked, what were those relationships like? A lot boils down to that.

In the meantime, there is no reason to limit yourself and your dating life. I would look more for a man who is willing to wait for sex therefore you can establish a loving, firm relationship with him instead of worrying about how the sex will turn out. Once you have the relationship established on such a strong romantic level, orgasms may come more natural because it's HIM giving them to you as opposed to just another boyfriend.

First though you need to find the root of your problem. WHY this makes you feel this way and then ask yourself if there is anything you can see in the future that can change this. Not saying you have all the answers now, but think of what would possibly help. But as I said, I wouldn't progress in a sexual relationship until you have this figured out and you finally find the man who is worth all your love and support.

Hope this helps.

I have the same thing, but I read its because of chemicals in the brain and theres nothing you can do about it