I've recently been talking to my roommate who I have a beautiful 2 year old with and our rocky relationship gained clarity but with the huge changes associated with this kind of realization. (For most of my life I had all of my alters geared so intensely to be "me" that I was able to hide DID from every therapist I've had except the one who recommended further evaluation, which I don't have access to with the Corona ######6 the world over ^_^ I'm not bitter

We're somewhat separated at the moment while we figure everything out, have plans to stay in the same place, and raise our kid together. Always, we're putting our kid first and foremost. We may be able to repair our relationship but it would mean me getting a lot of work done on myself and part of it is grappling this feeling that I get when Ela is at the front.
It feels right. With my relationship turning Awk-weird I've had the chance to go on some dates and explore my bisexuality in a safe and open environment, one very close friend and another person I talked to for a long time and went out with before getting around to hooking up (With protection, always). My roommate has been wonderful and supportive, although not as romantically attached, for good reason, "I fell in love with a man who it turns out has DID and may be Transgender, btw we have a 2 year old!" 3 years together, 2 very difficult because my disorders were becoming unmanageable. (DID, PTSD, Chronic Depression and you guessed it, Anxiety!)
She's still my best friend. We gossip after dates, about who we're talking to, who's cute, mostly our daily lives are the same, we just don't really have sex, we're comfortable being naked around eachother, at least for now there has been some physical attraction both ways leading to some toe curling but it's not as frequent or romantically driven as it used to be. I feel like I need to let Ela be Ela, and I (host ID) don't mind, I'm kinda Gender Fluid anyway. My other alters don't really subscribe to normal gender types. Kind of Androgynous.
It all flows nicely, I think, but I want to talk to someone who maybe has been there? If you know what I'm talking about AT ALL please respond on thread, I didn't see one so I made one. Everyone help each other!