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Thought I was straight, now I just don't know

Postby Sirdylan » Sat Nov 03, 2018 11:21 pm

Since I was a young child, I always identified as a straight male. All of my fantasies and romantic endeavours involved strictly females. People around me questioned my sexuality from time to time but it didn't bother because I had never experienced attraction to a male, and felt confident in clearing up that I was straight. In the recent years preceding my 18th birthday, I began to notice a shift in my life. First externally, then internally. In all of my work and professional settings I've noticed that the people around speculate about my sexuality. I've received confirmation about this through the micro-aggressions and light comments of others. The speculation of my sexuality took a toll on the social dynamics I tried to maintain with others, and caused me to go into deep introspection about my own sexuality. From this deep observation i've come to the conclusion that I do have an aesthetic attraction to men. For example, I have a roommate (unaware of my inner conflict) who I do recognize as a very good looking guy. As a matter fact his good looks disarm me to the point where its hard for me to be around him. I feel that this may partly be because of my fear of my own sexuality and what me recognizing his looks may mean. Currently there exists this dichotomy in my relationships were all of those who do not know me personallyd are waiting for some type of confirmation of my sexuality, while those who do know me see me as straight. I don't have a desire (at all) to sleep with a guy or even engage in intimacy. I just know he's pretty good-looking. Tried gay porn. not for me.
Do I make the my sexual fluidity public or just keep it to myself? cause i'm not trynna date a guy lol
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Re: Thought I was straight, now I just don't know

Postby Snaga » Sun Nov 04, 2018 6:28 am

Knowing a guy is good looking? To me that means nothing... if you have no desire for a guy in any form, you sound pretty straight to me- straight enough to say you're straight, anyway. I'm Bi and you sound nothing like me. I think you're overthinking this.

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Re: Thought I was straight, now I just don't know

Postby Zoicite23 » Thu Oct 03, 2019 10:52 am

Yeah it's quite simple really.

A homosexual is sexually attracted to their own gender, and you are not. Hence you are not a homosexual.

You may have bi-romantic tendencies. You may be a bi-romantic heterosexual. That means you may fantasise about emotional intimacy with men. As well as kissing, hugging, dating, but when it comes to sexual aspects: like his penis, you have no interest. Being bi-romantic is fine, just please don't end up leading on a sweet, well-meaning homosexual who may later realise you're not at all interested in him sexually.
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