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Postby cdawg1983 » Sun Mar 03, 2019 7:28 am

hello new here and not sure if im in the right place but here is my issue

i got married may 5 2018 me and my wife waited until marriage to have sex which was ok by me
so now here we are 10 months married and still have not had any sex at all my wife is always trying to avoid the issue we went to counciling we talked to each other about the issue she keeps saying that she wants to be asleep when she has sex and i to;d her no thats not healthy then she goes and says she isnt ready for sex then again says that she just doesnt want anything in her
i told her lets just make out a little let me try to finger her some so she let me try for like 10 seconds she made me stop said it was uncomfortable she asked me to buy her a dildo of her choice so we went and got one she used that once and she said she didnt feel excited or even enterested in it at all i just dont know what else to do now im so frustrated
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Re: wife doesnt want sex

Postby maree12 » Tue Jun 25, 2019 6:35 am

If you can get her to let you lick her that might let her know how good it feels, then, when she realises that, you can take it from there. Most women cannot orgasm through penetration sex, and she is probably also worried that it could be painful. She has to realise how pleasurable it can be, and that you do not want to hurt her. Which means that, the first time you lick her do not insist on having sex, let her get used to the feeling first.
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Postby wc24x7 » Sat Jul 20, 2019 4:48 am

Sometimes to get a wheel to stop you have to throw a stick through the spokes, meaning, as life continues on as it is, change it up. Try non-verbal communication. Take a shower when she is awake, lay naked on your bed, read a book. It's is just one of the many ideas that popped into my head, but give it a try...keep us informed as to how things are progressing.

Before I go another quick thought, buy your wife a sex toy to be delivered in her name...I wouldn't spend a lot on it as she might throw it away...
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Postby polishbear65 » Sun Jul 28, 2019 10:46 am

maree12 wrote:If you can get her to let you lick her that might let her know how good it feels, then, when she realises that, you can take it from there. Most women cannot orgasm through penetration sex, and she is probably also worried that it could be painful. She has to realise how pleasurable it can be, and that you do not want to hurt her. Which means that, the first time you lick her do not insist on having sex, let her get used to the feeling first.

I agree. This could be a way to start it all over again.
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Re: wife doesnt want sex

Postby funnybunnyvj » Fri Aug 09, 2019 4:39 pm

Other factor. I would point out how vital this side of marriage is important to you. I know it's not the best way, but if you two will never have sex - what's the point in marriage? At least for you.
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Postby wc24x7 » Fri Aug 09, 2019 11:54 pm

funnybunnyvj wrote:Other factor. I would point out how vital this side of marriage is important to you. I know it's not the best way, but if you two will never have sex - what's the point in marriage? At least for you.


I agree with the question. My grandparents wed, obviously, but they thought sex was dirty, they adopted my mom. They were both born in the late, very early 1800/1900's. He was born in Greece, she in Russia. Social norms back then, religious ones as I am assuming they were raised in often thought that sex was dirty, only used to procreate, if that.

Today though "what's the point of marriage," if sex isn't a part of the mix?
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