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How to completely kill one's sex drive?

Postby MaleHuman » Sat Feb 23, 2019 5:11 pm

I don't know if this is the right place, but seems there are many people with no sex drive posting here. For personal reasons I dislike sex. To me sex is pointless and a waste of time/energy if not for reproduction. And I consider sex drive a flaw in human evolution. Thus I decided to destroy mine completely. I began when I was 14, tried to link sex with harm/disgust and other negative things. Finally I managed to completely suppress my sex drive and eliminate any thought related to sex when I was 17. Now I'm thinking about "closing the pocket" and crushing the last resistance of my inner enemy, my sex drive. But I find it extremely difficult. My sex drive is suppressed, cornered, it never bothered me anymore but is still far from completely destroyed. If I go deeper into my mind, I'll see it still there, weakened but still alive. Is it possible to kill my sex drive? If possible, how? :D
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Re: How to completely kill one's sex drive?

Postby TonyS » Tue Feb 26, 2019 3:04 am

I don’t know why you’d want to kill your sex drive, that sounds strange to me. I have an over active sex drive.
Seems to me a sex drive is healthy in moderation. It drives us towards intimacy, relates us to other people. It’s the extremes that bother me. I don’t have a partner, I pay escorts for sex, can’t get enough.
I’ve thought of stopping but that makes me think of suicide. I wouldn’t know how to live without sexual attraction.
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Re: How to completely kill one's sex drive?

Postby Snaga » Wed Mar 06, 2019 1:15 pm

I have to agree, without already inherently having something that is more important (I'm thinking religion, such as The Apostles, monks, stuff like that, or some secular goal that consumes you, for that matter) than the sex drive, just trying to get rid of it, is unhealthy and mostly unrealistic, unless you can convince a doctor to do things to you. And that doesn't seem very healthy, either. I have... either disapproved, or severely edited, posts from people who in the past, described attempting to do some pretty extreme things to themselves in order to kill their sex drive. Just the idea of trying, doesn't sound healthy to me, whether it be by somehow shoving all that down internally, and trying to nail the lid down, or doing something inadvisable with one's body, as some people try. The urge to merge, is a pretty basic part of our coding.
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Re: How to completely kill one's sex drive?

Postby MaleHuman » Wed Mar 06, 2019 2:05 pm

Snaga wrote:I have to agree, without already inherently having something that is more important (I'm thinking religion, such as The Apostles, monks, stuff like that, or some secular goal that consumes you, for that matter) than the sex drive, just trying to get rid of it, is unhealthy and mostly unrealistic, unless you can convince a doctor to do things to you. And that doesn't seem very healthy, either. I have... either disapproved, or severely edited, posts from people who in the past, described attempting to do some pretty extreme things to themselves in order to kill their sex drive. Just the idea of trying, doesn't sound healthy to me, whether it be by somehow shoving all that down internally, and trying to nail the lid down, or doing something inadvisable with one's body, as some people try. The urge to merge, is a pretty basic part of our coding.

Ty. I've managed to kill any thoughts of sex, so my sex drive is actually not a problem because it doesn't affect me in any ways. Maybe this is enough for me, and I'm not considering anything that may damage my body.
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Re: How to completely kill one's sex drive?

Postby Snaga » Thu Mar 07, 2019 2:56 am

Well I'm glad to hear you've nothing physical planned, and it sounds as if you have basically reached your goal. I doubt many people could completely remove all trace, you may find you have reached your limit in that regard, but if it's something that can no longer get in the way, then that's good.
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Re: How to completely kill one's sex drive?

Postby HSS » Fri Mar 08, 2019 9:43 am

MaleHuman,

I will be direct, I hope that it can be helpful for you.

You would like to be a hero for your motherland, and so imagine...
Your country has been attacked by the enemy.
You are a brave soldier and you are fighting to defend it.
You follow the instructions from general commando. You take huge risks and sacrifices, you attack the enemy and kill many of their soldiers.

The war is finished. Your motherland is safe. You are glad! After many years of sacrifices, you demonstrated your value and helped your country crucially.

...but later, you realize that things weren't as they appeared. Your instructions were manipulated by the enemy. You discover that you didn't kill the enemy, but your country's soldiers. Your motherland is damaged and it is difficult to do something to change it. It's too late.

This is just a sample.

I understand very well that you have personal, good reasons to dislike your sex drive.
There are circumstances where sex drive becomes very difficult, problematic or other things.
But the real problem are the circumstances. And they can change.

Your sex drive is the source of your ego and, if you kill it, you risk having bad consequences for your emotional, physical and mental health later. Really, not a good idea...

I wonder if you could consider starting a psychological therapy about it; there is a possibility for a public therapy in many countries.

Again, please do not take it wrong. You are actually a strong and clever guy, not delusional. I just think that you could have some benefit from a psychological therapy, to take important decisions for your life. You are young and it's the right time for a therapy.

Btw: that a good “rule” is: do not do irreversible things, something that you can't change later.
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Re: How to completely kill one's sex drive?

Postby MaleHuman » Fri Mar 08, 2019 10:34 am

HSS wrote:MaleHuman,

I will be direct, I hope that it can be helpful for you.

You would like to be a hero for your motherland, and so imagine...
Your country has been attacked by the enemy.
You are a brave soldier and you are fighting to defend it.
You follow the instructions from general commando. You take huge risks and sacrifices, you attack the enemy and kill many of their soldiers.

The war is finished. Your motherland is safe. You are glad! After many years of sacrifices, you demonstrated your value and helped your country crucially.

...but later, you realize that things weren't as they appeared. Your instructions were manipulated by the enemy. You discover that you didn't kill the enemy, but your country's soldiers. Your motherland is damaged and it is difficult to do something to change it. It's too late.

This is just a sample.

I understand very well that you have personal, good reasons to dislike your sex drive.
There are circumstances where sex drive becomes very difficult, problematic or other things.
But the real problem are the circumstances. And they can change.

Your sex drive is the source of your ego and, if you kill it, you risk having bad consequences for your emotional, physical and mental health later. Really, not a good idea...

I wonder if you could consider starting a psychological therapy about it; there is a possibility for a public therapy in many countries.

Again, please do not take it wrong. You are actually a strong and clever guy, not delusional. I just think that you could have some benefit from a psychological therapy, to take important decisions for your life. You are young and it's the right time for a therapy.

Btw: that a good “rule” is: do not do irreversible things, something that you can't change later.

Thanks for your help. I have realized that my sex drive is just like the surface of an iceberg, about which I know little. To seek to completely destroy my sex drive without even knowing what's behind it would be foolish, and may result in unwanted consequences. Like Snaga said, maybe by suppressing my sex drive I've already reached my limit, it doesn't bother me and I should learn to accept the imperfect. I'll go to a therapist and have a talk about it. :)
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Re: How to completely kill one's sex drive?

Postby ratchit » Thu Mar 14, 2019 8:35 pm

The real eye opener for me (about pornography)?

I went to a strong 12 Step program for support, sexual help, confusion (Sexaholics).

To my complete shock?

A Rabbi and an out of town Pastor?

were two of the ten or so people there.

I was like, wow, this is even a problem for THEM.
(I'd thought Christianity was the answer, at least in the beginning).

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Re: How to completely kill one's sex drive?

Postby Snaga » Fri Mar 15, 2019 5:40 pm

Myself I am firmly of the belief that a belief system/higher power helps, but it's not a magic pill, even so.
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