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Re: Over 50 and Bi-Curious

Postby straightbutcurious » Thu Jul 12, 2018 11:02 pm

It appears that no one has posted to this site in over 4 years so I hope that I am not wasting my time here. I am a straight man who has been with many women in my life. I am currently single and have been for several years. I am curious about being with a man. The idea of going to a man's house and the two of us undressing each other excites me. After undressing each other there would be caressing,kissing each others bodies,doing each other orally,etc. I don't know how to go about finding a man for this. Any help ?
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Re: Over 50 and Bi-Curious

Postby SotIubitor » Fri Jul 13, 2018 11:29 am

straightbutcurious wrote:It appears that no one has posted to this site in over 4 years so I hope that I am not wasting my time here. I am a straight man who has been with many women in my life. I am currently single and have been for several years. I am curious about being with a man. The idea of going to a man's house and the two of us undressing each other excites me. After undressing each other there would be caressing,kissing each others bodies,doing each other orally,etc. I don't know how to go about finding a man for this. Any help ?


Hi !
I discovered this topic today and I am sad that no one is active any-longer here... So, your post is a great opportunity to have my say...
Maybe dating sites would help you. But I would suggest to find a couple not a man. A couple because there are many willing to have 3somes and this is a wonderful time to be with a guy, to offer oral and to satisfy the wife as well.
This is working for me, for us. Because we are a couple enjoying very much the mmf threesomes where I could touch, watch, suck another man who is interested in my wife.
I confess I need a woman's presence in order to be aroused by taking a cock in my mouth but if my wife is there... there are no limits in caressing and offering pleasure to the other guy...
I became sort of bisexual both for my pleasure and my wife's viewing pleasure; she loves so much to watch me doing it, somehow is similar to males' pleasure seeing lesbians in action...
I am not looking for individual man-to-man meetings :) I do not know even if I would be turned on ... but 3somes are wonderful.
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Re: Over 50 and Bi-Curious

Postby straightbutcurious » Wed Jul 18, 2018 9:37 pm

I took your advice and I checked out some gay dating sites. I put an honest ad in telling that I have never been with a man but have thought about it for awhile. Not one person replied. I don't know if being a virgin is a big turnoff or what the problem is. *mod edit*
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Re: Over 50 and Bi-Curious

Postby Snaga » Thu Jul 19, 2018 5:32 am

There used to be an excellent bi men forum that I was registered with, unfortunately it closed down.

I can't imagine why you would not get replies for a hook up. Might have to try several venues before you find one. As risky as it was, it's a real shame CL personals was shut down thanks to Uncle Sam. Expect more things like that to bite the dust, I have to wonder if that affected the bi men site I used to frequent.
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Re: Over 50 and Bi-Curious

Postby buddah013 » Sun Feb 17, 2019 1:59 pm

I also am a man over 50 and have had the urges to sexually gratify a man by performing oral sex. I am and have always been attracted to women. I don't find men physically attractive. I don't want to kiss, hug, cuddle, with a man. I just am attracted to the penis especially when it is erect. Whenever I watch blowjob porn I fantasize that I am the one giving the pleasure. I'm not sure when this started, but I do remember hijacking one of my father's porn mags when I was about 15 . There was a picture of a guy having sex with his car. I remember thinking to myself that his erect penis was extremely attractive. I would refer to that pic, at times, whenever I would masturbate. Recently I have been fantasizing about being penetrated. I have concluded that I am a bottom. These urges are completely sexual in nature. I am not wanting to be in a relationship with men, just random anonymous sexual gratification. I have struggled with this for a long time and have yet to take that leap. At this point in my life the urges are getting stronger. I have concluded that it is okay to have these urges and actually am normal.
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Re: Over 50 and Bi-Curious

Postby 50somethingBi » Mon Apr 08, 2019 12:02 am

I am in the same boat Buddah013...except for the accepting part. The secret urges, porn, toys..etc. makes life difficult. I'm in a long standing relationship with a "black/white" sexually conservative woman. She's an awesome individual, but if she knew it would be bad, like crossing the streams bad. It seems to be getting more difficult to deny the "other me". Thoughts?
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Re: Over 50 and Bi-Curious

Postby wc24x7 » Thu Jul 18, 2019 4:19 am

"Thoughts...?" Caution comes to mind.

I too at 55 or so was called a "late-bloomer, by the guy I had a first man with man sexual encounter with. Jae was younger, 35 I think, self identified a SWGM which stands for a "Single White Gay Male. We met on Craigslist back in the day when it didn't matter.

I have only really been with Jae over the years. I did meet three other men, but nothing came from those encounters. Except for sucking two cocks, neither one of them came, but I did have a mouthful of cock for a while. The third man, he wanted to meet for coffee recenly, haven't heard from him since. ((?)) He was married maybe his wife found out what he did when she was out on town...

As you "search" for Mr. Good Bar, just keep in mind your personal safty both in your surroundings and sexually; not all turn on's come without pain initially. Anal sex for example. I would loved to be topped, I have had enough toys in me, I am pretty sure taking on a big cock will not me hurt me much, but I could be wrong.

Disease is of course another concern and not everyone will tell us the truth about being disease free or not. A lot of guys looking for other guys only hit up men who are married for this very reason.

Then your own well being, don't get into a situation in which you have no way out. We're older, can take care of ourselves for the most part, but situaltional-surprises can take us back into something we were not ready for... so just be cautious, ok.
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Re: Over 50 and Bi-Curious

Postby buddah013 » Sun Oct 13, 2019 5:53 pm

Hey 50somethingbi, My thoughts are you need to explore your sexual urges and not settle for anything less. I understand the perils involved when in a serious relationship with someone that wouldn't understand. I'm in the same boat. Yet, I have to see where this goes and accept it as who i am. A man who is extremely attracted to women, but wants to taste cock and swallow cum. It is ok to be who you are. I am very close to fulfilling this and it excites me every time i think about it.
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Re: Over 50 and Bi-Curious

Postby Manners73 » Wed Nov 27, 2019 9:01 pm

HappyJack wrote:I am a man in his 50's who has occasionally thought about a same sex experience for a little over 10-12 years.I first thought about it after my ex-wife brought up her curiosity. I found her thought process interesting as she was curious as to the psychological aspects of being hetero and wondering if being such would allow her to enjoy giving and receiving sexual pleasure to another woman. She asked me if I had ever thought about it and at the time I never had. She asked me to give it some thought and I did but I really couldn't determine whether it wold be a positive experience or not. I've always believed in the phrase, "Our biggest sex organ is our brain." and I've always been intrigued by the psychological aspects of human sexuality. However, when we did discuss the topic, I found it to be somewhat arousing as well as she did and sometimes used it in 'sex talk'.

After our divorce 7-8 years ago, I rarely thought about it being busy with life and dating etc. After my last relationship I decided to just take a break and be free for awhile. Then the thoughts came back and I decided I wanted to get a better understanding of why I had these thoughts and decided to do some research. Unfortunately there isn't a lot out there, at least in an intelligent manner. I've been to some forums relating to sex trying to get a mature, meaningul discussion with someone, but end up getting bombarded with offers of cyber sex, web cam-ing etc. of which I'm not interested in.

My curiosity is mufti-faceted and complex and sometimes I feel embarrassed and confused sometimes but know I need to get a better understanding of this aspect of my sexuality.

I'm not looking for advice or answers, more just someone to bounce thoughts and feelings off of without being judged or hit on.

Thanks,
Kevin


I've not read all of this because my concentration wo t stretch so please excuse me.

This sort of reminds me of my ex. He wasn't gay (as far as I'm concerned) but he always fantasised about being with another man. He had a bi friend at work and when we went out he always used to go in the gay men's shop in town and pick up a present for him. I used to scratch my head sometimes but he was a bit older than me so I just thought that maybe this is what happens when all your hetro fantasies have run dry.

I'm quite open minded myself so I didnt mind him going forth with his urge.

Its just sex at the end of the day.

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Re: Over 50 and Bi-Curious

Postby wc24x7 » Thu Nov 28, 2019 12:09 am

In my experience of hetero and Homosexual acts, to me the sex act is more than just "sex" at the end of the day. Soul-ties are created where we are linked to the enjoyment of the experience.

From my divorce 19 years ago, 11 years into that timeline, I hadn't been intimate with anyone until I met Jay, since Jay 8/9 years ago now, I haven't had sex with anyone, play times have happened with other men, but nothing came or climaxed from them.

I am still wanting a homosexual relationship, but I am not out of the closet, so in whatever roll I find myself in, Homosexual - it will be a lie to my family and friends and a truth, in part to my actual self. Hetero, No one even comes to mind.

Being "curious," about the different roll types can be confusing. As asked, "where do these thoughts come from," a host of answers can arise, those depend on the individuals belief system. One idea or consideration can come from mere curiosity, as in "I wonder what's it really like to..." Kevin, as your ex wife had, then the reach of the idea got to you. What comes next though can be both devastating or freedom; again the end results of our curiosity depends on your/our belief system.

I'll be 65 next month, I like the taste of cock and cum *mod edit*. I enjoy the frequent company of men in a non sexual relationship; none of the guys I know I wouldn't want to be with sexually, but there are few I have seen and look for that I would, but I am a chub so not many look back.

Kevin, I would like to have a conversation with you or anyone else about this trend of curiosity. TY for your post, I liked reading it.

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