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is this "normal" behaviour for a child

Postby unbalancedlittleme » Mon Jul 23, 2018 7:31 pm

i remembered from a young age i was very interested in sex i am a female and i had a male friend and his mother used to let me and my other female friend bath him i must have been like 5-8 yrs old and i would touch his penis.not sure how old he was
also me and a male friends used to experiment touching each other.
when i was maybe 6 or 7 or even younger i used to masturbate in front of my niece who was 3 yrs younger than me and a couple of times we kissed and once i went down on her. i had some other sexual experiences with other friends. all i can really remember is i was soo young. surely that cant be normal for a child that age to be interested in all this, i have never been abused as a child to my knowledge and my parents were not open about sex and i cant remember ever having the talk.
i'd be grateful if anyone has any opinions on this, as i find it strange to be so active at a young age when i had never been introduced to it. i dont know what made me interested in it

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Re: is this "normal" behaviour for a child

Postby Rive » Fri Jul 27, 2018 3:36 pm

I think its normal to touch. Show me yours i will so you mine. The way my therapist says. Accept I went down on someone as well when I was about 7. She said this is not normal. Either i was sexually abused, watched porn or another child showed me that, or saw my parents doing that. It is a learned behavior.
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Re: is this "normal" behaviour for a child

Postby unbalancedlittleme » Fri Jul 27, 2018 9:26 pm

thanks for your reply, yeah i was thinking there was maybe more to it, but i doubt i had access to porn at that age and probably didnt know what porn was at that age etc and i have no recollection of being abused, so i really dont know, the person i went down on told her mam so she told mine and i remember her asking who showed you how to do that and i remember saying no one and she kept asking so i just said my friend. but i cant remember anyone every showing me that etc, maybe ive totally blocked it out or it was just a kid thing i somehow knew about
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Re: is this "normal" behaviour for a child

Postby Westy » Fri Nov 16, 2018 9:33 pm

I agree with Dnester, curiosity at that age is completely normal. Some masterbation in front of other children can be normal, for example if the child is too young to understand what they're really doing, and simply sees it as, when I do this, it feels funny. But a parent should then explain that this stuff should be a private thing.

As for "going down" on another child this isn't normal at all, it's definitely learned behaviour. I don't know where you are from but in the uk we have a helpful website on what is normal sexual behaviour in children between ages 0-16 take a look:

https://www.nspcc.org.uk/preventing-abu ... ng-people/
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Re: is this "normal" behaviour for a child

Postby introspective2 » Mon Jul 15, 2019 12:13 am

unbalancedlittleme wrote:i remembered from a young age i was very interested in sex i am a female and i had a male friend and his mother used to let me and my other female friend bath him i must have been like 5-8 yrs old and i would touch his penis.not sure how old he was
also me and a male friends used to experiment touching each other.
when i was maybe 6 or 7 or even younger i used to masturbate in front of my niece who was 3 yrs younger than me and a couple of times we kissed and once i went down on her. i had some other sexual experiences with other friends. all i can really remember is i was soo young. surely that cant be normal for a child that age to be interested in all this, i have never been abused as a child to my knowledge and my parents were not open about sex and i cant remember ever having the talk.
i'd be grateful if anyone has any opinions on this, as i find it strange to be so active at a young age when i had never been introduced to it. i dont know what made me interested in it

thanks for reading


I was like you, when I was like 9 one of my classmates wanted to touch my vagina and I let him.
You suffered abuse, because an adult told you to touch your friend's genital. Both you and your friend suffered abuse, because his mother made you touch his penis and he had his penis touched by you. I'm not a specialist and I can be wrong, but I think that kids who suffer abuse, like you, tend to develop an inappropriate sexual behavior towards relatives and other children. You should talk to a specialist about this since it's bothering you.
When I was 15 my father started coming up on me and I, again, started having inappropriate sexual behaviours. I think one thing is related to another. I really have to stop having these inappropriate sexual behaviours.
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Re: is this "normal" behaviour for a child

Postby wc24x7 » Thu Jul 18, 2019 5:46 am

"As for "going down" on another child this isn't normal at all, it's definitely learned behavior." I disagree, but I can also see where when she, the original poster spoke of "experimenting" with other kids near her own age, oral sex probably occurred.

Children's sexual interests begin when they are roused the very first time, and that arousal can come from anywhere. Cartoon characters kissing. Sadly, but by inaporperate touch. A movie, sounds of a movie or TV show not seen but heard.... So "learned-behavior," suggestes the original poster here, saw something more than once. From her discription she hadn't, at all.

Where else would she get the idea to preform a sexual act to some as progressive as oral sex without having never seen it or been a part of? The answer is simple, her experimentations with other kids.

When I was in Jr. High school 13 years old or so, I first heard about masturbation. Before hand like the day before I had never hear of it, climax, what the hell is that? How did I hear about it? Through other kids.

Sexual curiosity in a young child begins because we are sexual beings.

In re reading the original post, the poster spoke of masturbating at a young age in front of a younger female. Rubbing her slit is more like it as a child doesn't know of the word "masturbation" even when told. The word makes no sense to them. I am guessing here that now as an adult, her vernacular as an adult is describing child sexual experiences as an adult and not as a child; a totally different picture from a younger reality.

Her early days of sexual play set her up for many things, brought a young mind with young emotions to an age far pass a child's platform in life. So in essence she was being abused by what she was allowed and encouraged to do by some. Would these events be considered abuse if it was openly known about? Probably.

The mother with the young son being bathed by two young girls, sounds like the act was innocent enough, but apparently not. The giggling of touching the young boys penis, broke there emotional- hymen.

The poster doesn't speak of these events occurring at different ages, (the bath and the experimentation), as when the sexual encounters with other youngsters as she herself had going on. It is easy to see and to answer her original question: Is This "Normal" Behavior for a Child?" No, it is not.

By this time in the posters original claim of being a child when all this took place, as like having a young child's mind, she doesn't. The sexual touch had at first touch robbed her of her emotional-virginity and we are not, she was not, dealing with a child's mind any longer. Her age by this time had nothing to do with it except for here in making a point of reference.
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