30 years old still masturbate myself almost every day

hi , I am 30 years old and still not yet married. I have been masturbating myself since I was 14 and on average I masturbate 1 time a day, and sometimes twice a day. I had a few girl friends and I lived with them, however, I had hard time having sex with them and reaching orgasm. I felt so tired and difficult to have sex with real woman.

For many years I have tried a lot of times to stop myself from masturbation or make a plan, time-table for myself, like once a week or twice a week. But I always cannot achieve the goal.. I almost always masturbate only after three days in the best case.

Do you use a very tight grip when you masturbate? Or hump a pillow / blanket? Both of those can desensitise the cock. Which makes it harder to get stimulated when inside a woman. If so, using different grips. Preferably with lube. Or moving to using your hand rather than anything else. Might help. A Fleshlight could be good too. Doing a NoFap challenge can also help "reset" your sensitivity and libido. Reddit has lots of resources and stories to help with that. And stopping for 90 days is full on! But perhaps easier than a schedule. Since that feels like "for ever." And so is very hard to stick to.

Masturbation in itself isn't bad. Doing it most days isn't. As far as I know. Physically unhealthy. But if it causes problems when you want to have partner sex. That's not good. And worth looking at what you can change.

I see 2 issues in your post that I may be able to hep you with, your masturbation technique and a sexually unhealthy psychology regarding masturbation.

What would happen if you never exercised your body? It woulds become weak and sickly, would it not? Think of masturbation as necessary exercise for your manhood (male sexual organs) Not only is it perfectly normal for a 30 y/o man to masturbate, regular ejaculation either by having intercourse or masturbation is necessary for maintaining male sexual health and function thereby reducing the occurrence of ED and the risk of prostate cancer as you get older.

There are no masturbation police, set limits or average when it comes to masturbation and frequency. A good rule of thumb is whatever you are comfortable with which could be anywhere from 2-3 times a week to 1-5 times a day. Makes no difference as long as it's not having a negative impact on your everyday life and/or loved ones. some examples of problem masturbation follow

[*Affecting work performance because you are too tired from being up all night masturbating]

[*Neglecting everyday task such as chores and hygiene]

[*Allowing excessive masturbation to neglect your partner's and/or loved ones needs that depend on you]

The past hundred years of advance in sexual medicine tells us that masturbation is very, very healthy—people who masturbate more, on average, have healthier relationships, live longer, know more about their own bodies and have better sex lives.

David J Ley PhD "The Nofap Phenomenon"

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/wo ... phenomenon

RESISTANCE IS FUTILE AND SERVES NO PURPOSE. It's easier for a single guy to stop breathing than it is to quit masturbating. In lieu of regular intercourse masturbation is a healthy and necessary habit

Is it necessary to masturbate at all?

Yes, it's necessary for males to masturbate.

Let's take a step back from masturbation and talk about ejaculation. It's necessary for males past puberty to ejaculate. The male sexual organs produce a number of fluids that have to be eliminated periodically. Doctors specializing in sexuality generally agree that a male must ejaculate (at a bare minimum) once every two weeks to avoid damage to his sexual functioning. However, more than 98% of males under the age of 60 ejaculate much more often than this. A team of doctors led by Dr. Graham Giles published a study in 2003 that found that males who ejaculated most often when they were young had the least incidence of prostate cancer later. They state that masturbation is healthier for the prostate than having intercourse, because masturbation doesn't expose the prostate to STDs. Dr. Giles recommends that younger males masturbate at least six times a week.

So ejaculation is necessary. If a male doesn't ejaculate by having intercourse (or wet dreams, which are uncommon in boys who have learned how to masturbate) -- then masturbation is necessary. So as a practical matter, yes, it's necessary for males to masturbate. Very few males claim to never masturbate, and some authorities say there are no males past puberty who never masturbate.

The average male masturbates well over 1000 times before he ever has sexual intercourse.

healthystrokes.com

Masturbate to avoid damaging my sexual function? Good enough for me! You will need that "sexual function" thing when you have a partner and want to start a family

Hope this will help put your mind at ease concerning masturbation. More than 40 years years ago at 12 I started masturbating at least once a day up to 5 times a day on occasion. I continued to masturbate all thru my teens, 20's and 30's and have 2 grown children the result of a 10 year marriage. Today I'm 54 remarried and still ENJOY masturbation 3-4 times a week, twice a day sometimes never knowing the sexual health benefits of masturbation until a few months ago when I discovered healthystrokes.com a teen friendly non-profit spam free website with no registration or fee required

I will address your masturbation technique in my next post, might be a day or so in coming

I think the problem is if you are using visual stimulus(pornography). That is my problem, I have trouble getting stimulated by real women.

It is okay to masturbate often if it does not cause any disorder. If you can maintain an erection before sexual activity with a partner, then there is nothing to worry about.

I was glad to discover these posts and have done much researching in the literature since. As masturbation has grown more understood and much more accepted over the past decade, it's then no surprise that masturbation frequency has increased. What used to be compulsive, such as once or twice a day, has become the norm and is quite healthy. Britain's NHS, for example, published "An Orgasm a Day" which stresses the benefits of ejaculating once a day, at least, and masturbation is the safest and most effective means to achieving that goal. The online porn industry and sex toy industry have a good handle on trends in sexual behavior and have boomed. They note in their marketing reports the steep upward trend in masturbation and a large and growing segment who masturbate 3 to 4 times a day. Devices and online services have responded to support this growing segment. Orgasmic Meditation, Tantric Masturbation have become popular and gone mainstream. Many embrace what is now called the SoloSexual lifestyle where masturbation throughout the day is normal and encouraged.
So if you do become concerned you are masturbating "too much", you may be more normal than you think but simply be out of touch with your peers around you.