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I was molested as a kid and I am hyper-sexual as an adult.

Postby pervneedshelp » Mon Dec 30, 2019 6:38 pm

This is mainly to help get a lot of this off my chest. I have only ever told a few people about this and I have never written put down my thoughts in a long form format before. When I was about 5 or 6 I was molested by a female babysitter (I am male) and I loved every second of it... Now I am 44 and (still) a sex addict. I have tried to get over this for most of my life but it never really leaves you. I now have many strange and contradictory kinks. *mod edit* I would also never want another person to have to go through the guilt that I went through. I was raised in the bible belt and the amount of guilt Christianity puts on you is crazy. As a kid you hear that being sexually abused it is the worst thing that could ever happen to you. That makes you think that something is very wrong with you if you liked it... and I loved it. Religion makes you think that you are evil and God hates you. On the flip side of the issue, I don't hate the woman who molested me. I don't hope she is sent to prison. I want her to stay away from kids to be sure. But I don't think that pedophiles should be sent to prison where they will be tortured and murdered by other inmates. However, I do not accept pedophilia as an alternate sexual lifestyle. I don't have a real great answer for what should be done with peodos. May be a psych ward or something. *mod edit* . I know, I know...It doesn't make any f*****g sense. I am well aware of that. I am still a sex and pron addict though. I am bisexual. The only thing that makes me truly happy is sex. I love group sex with men and women. I love interracial sex. I have been married for 22 years to the same woman and we occasionally swing. Honestly, if I could make money by making porn from home I would. I am trying to beat my addiction to porn...again. I say again because I have tried many times before and given up. It reminds me of quitting smoking. I smoked a pack of cigarettes a day for 22 years. I tried to quit many times and failed. That being said, I have not had a cigarette now in over 7 years so i guess there is hope. I am a "bad person" who tries very hard to be a good person. I am a perv who needs help.
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Re: I was molested as a kid and I am hyper-sexual as an adult.

Postby ThoughtIWas » Fri Feb 07, 2020 8:05 am

Bad Person? Not by a long shot!
I also was molested at about 8 years of age and vividly remember every detail. She was my babysitter. I was very unaware then, the extreme pleasure that could be found in this kind of physical contact.
This is the first time I have ever divulged this to anyone, anywhere and I don’t know why I am now!
My life is darn near a photo copy of yours. Yes Bi, enjoy crave, every aspect of sexual contact. Nothing perv, nothing nasty, always passionate. The girl was 14, my neighbour and my regular sitter and my regular secret!
This treatment by younger women going through puberty occurs very far more than society or doctors could even guess!
Just to mention the opening remark, you are NOT a Bad Person, your so Normal! I say that because today this is the norm and not the exception.
My friend if you can do two things for me, I would be forever grateful and know I’ve made a difference in someone else’s life.
1. Quit smoking, drink no cafinated drinks and stay off drugs! They all are harmful and addictive.
2. Accept who you are at this very moment and enjoy life, sex, your partner and yourself. Realize that this is not a problem you have. It was hers.
So your Bi, so what! Enjoy your life and give it all you can in joy but never in anger at yourself nor any other. I’m betting you already do the later!
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Re: I was molested as a kid and I am hyper-sexual as an adult.

Postby Johei » Thu Sep 03, 2020 4:05 am

Man, does this ring true...
I first had sex when I was 9
My best friend was this Korean girl, and her older sister ws like this...Goddess to me.
One day she was watching the both of us, and she... did stuff.
I loved it.
It HAS messed me up for life.
Like you: Bi sexual, always in the mood, and I have *mod edit, preference for Asian partners* so bad it's like plague.
My best female friend (platonic) pulled on the brake when I had 8 partners in 1 week, her words: 'You are using people like cleenex, this is not healthy'
Luckily, Covid has destroyed my dating life.
Every dark cloud has a silver lining...
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Re: I was molested as a kid and I am hyper-sexual as an adult.

Postby Tiemytubes » Mon Sep 14, 2020 8:24 pm

If he taking it i might as well give it to the ones i want to have it. Thats how my sex addiction started. Once i realized the enjoyable feelings associted with mutual sex i was hooked. Small things excite me now to the point i have had sex with some people in some places im not proud of. My body be ready before my mind does but maybe my mind is always ready so my body is too. I smoke and eat and exercise but nothing curbs my greedy desire to want sex on demand. Its hard fighting these sex demons
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