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What could make a child this way ***TW***

Postby Rive » Sat Apr 21, 2018 3:29 pm

So when I was about 7 me and another boy had oral. I began freaking out about sexual talk, anything I saw that was sexual etc. Began acting out oral with my dolls etc. Then age 11 a female cousin who was 10 bribed me to play a humping game. I then humped my sister once. So anyway fast forward to my adult life. I find young girls really pretty and have bad thoughts about them. I have impulses to touch everybody boys, girls, elderly people, people my age, animals or myself at various times during the day. Its not that I want sexual gratification its just I have the impulses that well up and cause anxiety but I dont act. So I dont remember ever being molested so what could have made me this way?
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Re: What could make a child this way ***TW***

Postby jaus tail » Wed Apr 25, 2018 5:03 pm

early exposure to sex moulds the minds of kids. the minds of kids is like wet clay. it can be easily moulded.

i too did sexual stuff when i was around 8. it lasted for many years n turned me into a sex addict with identity n orientation issues..
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Postby Objectified » Fri Apr 27, 2018 9:20 am

I had a similar experience when i was younger and had no idea what im doing, but it just felt good.. However, i am now an adult and its very traumatizing for me to remember it or think about it in the same way when i see kids generally.

It could be that children who are exposed to such things were not aware at all that this is wrong and could lead to things that should not happen, as kids, we never knew what was right and what was wrong all the time, we just acted according to what we wanted to do until a parent or an elder told us not to do it. But in our case, elders never expected kids as young as 8-12 to have such ideas or thoughts.

You right now feel this way because these events were not normal events and therefore they got engraved in your memories in a deeper manner so whenever you meet kids who are around that age you might want to experiment what happened back then in order to experience it all over again.
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Re: What could make a child this way ***TW***

Postby Wally58 » Fri Apr 27, 2018 8:18 pm

Very hard to undo and nearly impossible to forget. I became alcoholic as an adolescent in part because I could not deal with the 'bad' thoughts that made me ashamed or aroused.
We all have some kind of fancy or fetish that may bother us or not seem 'normal'. It might be a dark little secret or memory that keeps coming back. It isn't something that we usually want others to know about us.
Alcohol might have helped me deal with this in the beginning, but it eventually turned against me. It wasn't the answer I needed anyways.
I did get help in accepting that this was the way I was 'wired, molded or engraved' and learned that it is a part of who I am. Acceptance was a big step in being able to figure out and move forward in life.
We can change how we look at ourselves from this moment on. It can be an epiphany. What was destroying me and keeping me sick can become a new strength and a new awareness.
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Re: What could make a child this way ***TW***

Postby CBguy1983 » Fri Mar 15, 2019 3:14 am

Ive always been perverted. My dad worked at an adult book store. Yes trying to take care of his family but that backfired. Like I heard the word sex and got curious. Up to then my biggest issue was getting busted playing nintendo at 3am when i had school the next day. However I decided to look up sex on yahoo back then. Id get blurry pics(early internet what can I say). But i remember mom would try to keep me from looking in the store when we picked dad up. I was 9/10 at the time. So now Id sneak up and look up sex until I saw a clear pic. I was hooked. Id sneak home from school knowing when no one would be home just to watch porn. Ill give them credit they tried to stop me. They did all they could but I was always a smart kid. Dad figured out I was lookin up sex sites so he installed a password protocol on the computer. I usually figured the passwords out. One protocol i recognized had a 5 second window before it kicked in. So Id start up as soon as the screen lit up id click into the main computer and drag the protocol to the desktop. Have my fun. as soon as I was done drag it back to original location. Restart then shut down. I guess I introduced it to my cousins. Yes I have regrets. These days normal sex & porn dont really do it for me. I have to have some kind of rush, some extreme feeling. So ill look up random sex terms on google. nothing illegal. like old man with teen. some will say thats gross. but i feel hey if he can talk to her & actually get her attention that far then hey props to him. like lately my fetish is married women. ive talked to a few that were married but little observations say their not happy in their marriages. one had recently divorced a cousin. she thought thatd make it awkward but i didnt care. yes a part of me says the vows are sacred but i feel they could easily say no and thatd be the end of it.
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Re: What could make a child this way ***TW***

Postby wc24x7 » Thu Jul 25, 2019 11:32 pm

From reading through these posts, seems like the title should read: "What could make an adult this was."

I had read and replied in another forum here regarding the subconscious mind and how it works. Rather than go through it all here, in short, our subconscious mind is the record keeper of our past.

To answer the original question: I would venture to say why you have impulses of the past, now as an adult; ones that you would never act upon. It is because of your record-keeper. Everything that you remember and felt is recycled through your thoughts, thus the "impulses" are being recreated like in a looping of sorts.

Someone here in this thread mentioned, (paraphrased), "reliving how you felt," in its essence, that is exactly right. You like how you felt then as a child, now as an adult you are remembering those emotions. It is good too, to know that these impulses you have are safe, held back at bay from you acting on them. That is a sign of maturity, something you didn't have as a child.
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Re: What could make a child this way ***TW***

Postby wc24x7 » Fri Jul 26, 2019 1:49 am

"'''' this way." sorry. (What could make an adult this way) No sleep last night, to much family drama, :lol:
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Re: What could make a child this way ***TW***

Postby ganjakites » Sat Nov 16, 2019 10:45 pm

Demonized by all the perfection, extremely creative, and also an reactment side.....So the big trauma and small trauma needed to add up to his parents and prolly grandparents....
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