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Re: Can you still love your incest abuser? Help?

Postby Pollee » Sun May 08, 2022 10:29 pm

Maybe you should get your dad involved...
It doesn't seem like what your mom talked to them about helped. At least you've tried breaking them up. I'm just really sorry that they won't stop.
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Postby Emma9123 » Mon May 09, 2022 7:22 am

At this stage I do plan to talk to dad. He’s not back home now until wednesday. I hope I can get the words out.
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Re: Can you still love your incest abuser? Help?

Postby Emma9123 » Wed May 11, 2022 11:41 pm

So I was supposed to be going to stay with my aunt and cousin for a while. Change of plan after speaking with dad earlier. My mum did talk to him when he came home from work, I think she told him some of what’s been goin on, not sure it was all, but enough for him to be separating my brother and sister until things ‘settle’ he says. So she’s going to stay with my aunt and cousin for a while instead of me, to keep them apart. I don’t think i’ve seen dad get so angry before but I think it was needed. My aunt has been told the reason and she’s gonna try to help too. I’m kind of concerned because my cousin is a boy but I was told not to worry about that. I just hope my sister doesn’t try anything with him. At least I won’t have to see and hear my brother and sister getting it on, I’m relieved about that. I was also told by a friend at school that my sister has been having ‘fun’ with her younger brother. My school friend is discrete, she just thought I should know that she’s been performing sex acts and he’s been bragging about it. She doesn’t know the half of it! My sister admitted that she’s stopped using condoms now that she’s on the pill. I can’t repeat here what she said the reason why was. But thanks to everyone here for your help and support.
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Re: Can you still love your incest abuser? Help?

Postby Chels91 » Thu May 12, 2022 12:32 am

Thank goodness! It’s really too bad it had to take for your dad coming home before something was actually done about it. Better late than never, anyway. Your sister most likely will try something with your cousin. Hopefully he’ll have enough sense to turn her away if she does or that your aunt can keep a sharp eye on things. But if not, that’s their problem, not yours any longer. And thank goodness especially for that! Hopefully things can be much easier for you now.

Thanks for keeping us updated. You know you always have us if you need help with anything else.
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Re: Can you still love your incest abuser? Help?

Postby Snaga » Thu May 12, 2022 12:52 am

Whewwww about time. Glad to hear they're getting separated a while. Not sure how much good it will do, but something had to be done.

And not at all surprised little sister has a 'reputation'; I was expecting that, unfortunately.

I'm hoping Dad takes Junior aside while Sissy is away, and puts the fear of God into him.
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Re: Can you still love your incest abuser? Help?

Postby Emma9123 » Thu May 12, 2022 8:37 am

I'm hoping Dad takes Junior aside while Sissy is away, and puts the fear of God into him.


Dad has done that, time will tell if it makes a difference. Like my sister, lately he says all the right things at the time and then does what he likes afterwards. But we’ll see.

And not at all surprised little sister has a 'reputation'


My friend was being as nice as possible telling me what she did. She says her brother thinks my sister is one of the hottest girls ever and couldn’t believe that she would do stuff with him, hence the bragging. Her looks don’t help at the minute as she can pretty much attract any boy she wants.

Time will tell but it’s a start. My dad is trying to get my sister to the doctor to see he can give her anything to cool her urges. I don’t even know if that’s possible but at least Dad is trying. He’s even told her that she has to wear a bra when there are boys around, because she doesn’t and her boobs are showing. Fingers crossed.
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Re: Can you still love your incest abuser? Help?

Postby Emma9123 » Thu May 12, 2022 4:01 pm

So my sister has just left with mum and dad to go stay with my aunt and cousin. They’re driving her and will stay for a while to settle her in, and probably update my aunt some more. My brother is in his room - so I just went in to see if he’s ok and guess what, he’s looking at porn! Seriously! They’re literally gone 5 minutes. He didn’t even attempt to turn it off. However I think I’ll be able to relax a bit knowing that there’s distance between them now. I just want a bit of normality. Even for a while to help my own head.
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Re: Can you still love your incest abuser? Help?

Postby Snaga » Thu May 12, 2022 4:58 pm

There needs to be some serious internet filters going on at the least, if not just cutting the darn thing off entirely. I wouldn't let any kid of mine have a smart phone until well up in high school, but that's just me. A good old fashioned dumb phone is plenty good enough. But... the genie's been let out, be darned difficult to stuff it back in the lamp.

The Remorse forum is full of adults in their 20s and early 30s who regret the things they did in their teenage years, and wow imagine that- fueled by easy access to internet porn. And then there are the ones who post to sexual addiction forum about porn use. Le sigh.

Oh sure, I've seen my share but at least when I was 14, the internet was just a gleam in ARPANET's eye.
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Re: Can you still love your incest abuser? Help?

Postby Emma9123 » Thu May 12, 2022 10:54 pm

I wouldn't let any kid of mine have a smart phone until well up in high schoo


I couldn’t agree more. I’ve seen so many things at school from kids who have the latest iphones etc. it’s bonkers. Parents have no idea what their kids are looking at. I saw 11 year old boys looking at bukkake videos in school once, when I was 11 too. That’s how I know what that word means now. I shouldn’t even know that! What an education lol but it’s not even funny. My brother goes on chat rooms and talks to all sorts of random people who aren’t a good influence. He even goes on video chats. He thinks nothing of getting his thing out on cam either. I’d cut it off. The internet I mean. Lol.
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Re: Can you still love your incest abuser? Help?

Postby Emma9123 » Sat May 14, 2022 8:37 am

So it’s saturday morning and my sister has just been brought home again by my aunt who says she’s too much to deal with and she can’t watch her 24 hours a day. She lasted two nights at my aunts house. I overheard some of what my aunt told mum today. Apparently, after some interrogation of my cousin, my sister gave him oral on the first night and sex with him last night, possibly more but that’s all my cousin will admit to. I can’t really blame my aunt, it was a lot for her to take on and I don’t think she knew what she was in for. I can’t really ask to go stay with my aunt now as planned, although she knows that I won’t jump into bed with my cousin. I felt sorry for mum and dad, the embarrassment. I just don”t know what today will bring.
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