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Why Find it Pleasurable to Abuse the Sexually Active?

Postby lensen » Thu Sep 13, 2018 11:22 am

I have been noticing something strange about human psychology. There seems to be an unspoken idea that you can treat a sexually active person any way you want. Doesn’t matter if it is physical or verbal. Strangely, this is where liberals, conservatives, Hollywood, porn movies and even the average sexually active people find a common ground. I got a creepy answer from one person that carrying out the insult feels good. Second one I got was that the person should not have been sexually active if they wanted to be treated with respect. And if you watched Eyes Wide Shut you probably saw the rich guy telling Tom Cruise to not feel sad about the model’s murder because in his words “she was just a prostitute”. This kind of idea is often emphasized a lot in porn movies that show multiple men on one female. They don’t seem to care about her cry.

What really drives a human to lose compassion for the sexually active? What’s working to make it pleasurable for people to insult them?
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Re: Why Find it Pleasurable to Abuse the Sexually Active?

Postby avatar123 » Thu Sep 13, 2018 4:40 pm

There's an unusual alignment between feeling morally superior, upholding one's values, and the sexual desires normally prohibited by those same values, being fulfilled. So two strong drivers that are normally opposed, work together.

Of course it's irrational, if abuse is wrong it doesn't become right because the victim has what appears to you to be a lesser standard of morality. But if a person has learned to look down upon those people, and feel superior to them, then it may seem reasonable to treat them as lesser beings. Especially if doing so allows you sexual access to them, that you already desired anyway.

First & necessary step in any form of abuse is to devalue the victim. That's why all belief systems that encourage superiority are dangerous. The only one that truly works is that all people have the same rights and expectations to be free from abuse. Then even if you have the opportunity to abuse, and the other person is vulnerable, you still won't act on it, because it's wrong to do so.
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