by orinoco » Wed Feb 15, 2023 4:53 pm
You never remember early childhood trauma as this happens between age 1½ when the amygdala goes "online" and age 3 when the hippocampus goes "online" (which is responsible for memory, time and place orientation etc.). This is the age of the emotional birth, when we were "sitting ducks" to trauma e.g. absence of primary caregiver (mom goes working again), neglect etc.. I strongly recommend the work of Bruce D. Perry and Bryan Post about (not) learning(!) emotional autoregulation during this period. You do learn this from your primary caregiver during this time or you never will. With age 3 time is over, the time window of our ontogenetic brain developement is closed. The japanese have a saying: Mitsugo no tamashii hyaku made. The soul of a three year old stays with him a hundred years.
You personally can only find out about early childhood trauma indirectly e.g. from relatives or family members what happened when you were that age, or how you remember the relation to your primary caregiver later emotionally: warm? cold? violent? busy all the time with job? neglect? clinging? Then it was probably before the same, when you needed your mother as an emotional teacher most.
What you remember age 15 is probably a re-trauma. Being traumatized you react much more when disturbing things happen e.g. death of a beloved family member/relative, separation from partner, car accident, catastrophy etc.