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Re: Fear of intimacy vs difficulties connecting

Postby ShowJumpingRabbit » Fri May 11, 2018 11:26 pm

Then how is it not an aversion (I understand though if it doesn't feel like a fear)?

Sorry, not completely sure I understood you actually ...
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Re: Fear of intimacy vs difficulties connecting

Postby emillionth » Sat May 12, 2018 12:00 am

Well I'm not adverse to expensive food, for example. It can actually be tasty. I'm not going to buy any, though. It's not tasty enough to be worth the price for me. If I really wanted to eat expensive food, I'd have to change my lifestyle and work more. Some people would do that, but I won't. For whatever reason, what I get from tastier food isn't that much better than what I get from dirt-cheap food. And I have different priorities anyway.

It's pretty much the same thing. Diminishing returns.
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Re: Fear of intimacy vs difficulties connecting

Postby ShowJumpingRabbit » Sat May 12, 2018 12:51 am

Ok.

So how does it translate to intimacy? Cheap food = low intimacy, tasty food = high intimacy? Because you can't live without food - but you can survive without intimacy.
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Re: Fear of intimacy vs difficulties connecting

Postby emillionth » Sat May 12, 2018 1:02 am

You can survive without expensive food. :)
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Re: Fear of intimacy vs difficulties connecting

Postby ShowJumpingRabbit » Sat May 12, 2018 1:45 am

Yeah ... but if you're being exposed to a level of intimacy you're not comfortable with, it's horrible, but if I'm invited to an expensive restaurant, I'm GOING. Right NOW! :lol:
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Re: Fear of intimacy vs difficulties connecting

Postby Eight » Sat May 12, 2018 2:05 am

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Re: Fear of intimacy vs difficulties connecting

Postby emillionth » Sat May 12, 2018 2:06 am

ShowJumpingRabbit wrote:Yeah ... but if you're being exposed to a level of intimacy you're not comfortable with, it's horrible, but if I'm invited to an expensive restaurant, I'm GOING. Right NOW! :lol:

I'm not. Unless the staff and their customers were all totally okay with my everyday attire, which they almost certainly wouldn't be. If I need to wear something I don't like in order to eat something tasty, then it's still not worth the price, even if it's for free.

The food analogy actually goes further than I thought. :)

Now if the food can be delivered to my door and it won't give me syphilis, then I'm okay with it. Wait... I think I got something mixed up. :lol:
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Re: Fear of intimacy vs difficulties connecting

Postby Eight » Sat May 12, 2018 2:44 am

emillionth wrote:Now if the food can be delivered to my door and it won't give me syphilis, then I'm okay with it. Wait... I think I got something mixed up. :lol:


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Re: Fear of intimacy vs difficulties connecting

Postby ShowJumpingRabbit » Sat May 12, 2018 7:13 am

:)

Two solutions I could think of:

- you can either ask the escort to bring the sushi

or:

- you can find someone comfortable enough to drag you to a restaurant in your dude robe, underwear, untamed mane and sunglasses.
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Re: Fear of intimacy vs difficulties connecting

Postby naps » Sat May 12, 2018 11:56 am

emillionth wrote:I'm not. Unless the staff and their customers were all totally okay with my everyday attire, which they almost certainly wouldn't be. If I need to wear something I don't like in order to eat something tasty, then it's still not worth the price, even if it's for free.


Amen.

I barely have presentable clothes, let alone nice ones.

The fact that people can get upset if you underdress for a fancy occasion irritates me.
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