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Imitating the departed

Postby HSS » Wed Jun 24, 2020 11:55 am

We tend to take the form of a close person when we lose her, when she dies, abandons or leaves us. It's an imitating instinct, an homage, but it's not always so luminous.
As I see it, there is perhaps some deep guilt in those who stay.

I find it disturbing. It's like a ghost that takes another' s mind, life and personality. The dead person continues her life through those who survived, and sometimes it looks like a possession: you see it passing down through generations like a malediction, as if your destiny is traced.
In my family, my aunt took the form of my grandfather, when he died, and later on of my grandmother when she died too.

How do you explain this phenomenon and how could we minimize it?

@Mods: not sure if I should post it on here or on Grief and Loss subforum, feel free to move where it fits better, thanks.
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Re: Imitating the departed

Postby sprock » Tue Jul 14, 2020 4:02 pm

I suspect this is a form of survivor's guilt - though ultimately none of us will survive this thing called life, though our atoms will.
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Re: Imitating the departed

Postby HSS » Sun Jul 19, 2020 12:00 pm

Yeah, me too. Thank you @sprock.
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