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Anxious over feelings for a coworker

Postby AprilR » Sun Apr 07, 2019 1:20 pm

I recently started working and it has been going not so bad until now. There's someone at work that i kind of like even though i don't know them well. I ended up seeing his name on a document and checked his instagram page. However i checked one of his stories and apparently it shows on his page that i looked at it. After that i saw that he made his account private so i'm sure he noticed it was me even though i disabled my account afterwards.
I've been feeling so anxious and nauseaous since i noticed this and feel so guilty for violating his privacy. The worst thing is that we work together and im scared that he will tell everyone about this and people will gossip about me. I had anxiety all my life and also have aspergers. This was my first job and i ruined it all with this mistake. Please, does anyoene have any idea what i should do? I really don't want to quit my job but the thouhght of seeing him everyday after this makes me want to puke from anxiety.
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Re: Anxious over feelings for a coworker

Postby shock_the_monkey » Sun Apr 07, 2019 8:41 pm

this information wasn't private when you looked at it, so you've done nothing wrong. the rest is assumptions. forget it. these kind of things happen all the time. they mean nothing.
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i can't take any more
... don't you know you're gonna shock the monkey

don't like it but i guess i'm learning

... shock the monkey to life
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Re: Anxious over feelings for a coworker

Postby AprilR » Mon Apr 08, 2019 11:29 am

I skipped work because of overwhelming anxiety and nausea today. I don't know how i will go to the courthouse from now on since he works there and if hr confronts me about it i wouldn't be able to go on with that shame. I can't see my therapist this week either i seriously don't know what to do.
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Re: Anxious over feelings for a coworker

Postby shock_the_monkey » Mon Apr 08, 2019 11:54 am

april,

all sorts of silly little things happen in life. don't let them get you down. the problem with social media is that it can really screw people up. instagram is just interested in making money. curiosity is perfectly normal. certainly nothing to be ashamed of. let this go. it isn't worth ruining your life over.

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something knocked me out' the trees
now i'm on my knees
... don't you know you're gonna shock the monkey

there is one thing you must be sure of
i can't take any more
... don't you know you're gonna shock the monkey

don't like it but i guess i'm learning

... shock the monkey to life
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Re: Anxious over feelings for a coworker

Postby AprilR » Mon Apr 08, 2019 2:02 pm

Thank you shock. I recently stopped taking my meds since i cant get them without prescriptions and i don't have time to see my therapist.Maybe its because of that mixed with the stress of work. People keep on getting angry with me because i still dont understand basic things. It's so stressful already and now i have this to worry over. I feel like a disgusting person
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Re: Anxious over feelings for a coworker

Postby shock_the_monkey » Mon Apr 08, 2019 5:57 pm

you need to see your therapist, get your medication sorted and take it from there. at least that will give you a basis to go forward. as you know, anxiety is a part of AS. if you need treatment for that, it needs to be consistent in order to be effective.
something knocked me out' the trees
now i'm on my knees
... don't you know you're gonna shock the monkey

there is one thing you must be sure of
i can't take any more
... don't you know you're gonna shock the monkey

don't like it but i guess i'm learning

... shock the monkey to life
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