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Reason for my friend's isolation

Postby thatright » Sat Apr 21, 2012 8:23 am

We just spoke more on the phone more then we did face to face. He got into touch with his other friends but after they didn't bother with him, he sank deeper into isolation. My friend prefers to be with friends in person more then talking on the phone. When we have been together in person, he is very happy. He even admitted to me once in a conversation, that he was happy being with me. Part of my friend's condition is having mood swings. His father is the kind of person, who will snap at him for being moody. You speak only when I say and if you are rued to me, you will get a rued comment said at you. That's what my friend's dad is like. So my friend thinks he is a bad person to be around with. So he avoids all social contact because of his bad experience with his dad.

We used to talk a lot to each other on the phone. He doesn't feel comfortable with hanging around with females due to low experience. When I went down there to speak to him, he was listening. I got in touch with his mum and asked her to contact me to let me know how he was doing. She phoned me and I could hear him lauging, giggling and blushing in the background. His mum said, he was extremely shy to talk to me.
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Re: Reason for my friend's isolation

Postby justonemoreperson » Sat Apr 21, 2012 12:16 pm

So what do you want? You haven't asked for advice; just told the story.

Maybe he doesn't like you and is making excuses.
Maybe when his mother was talking to you he was laughing at you.
Maybe you need to ask yourself why you want a friend like this - what's the point?
I'm not arguing, I'm explaining why I'm right.
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Re: Reason for my friend's isolation

Postby thatright » Sat Apr 21, 2012 5:31 pm

I was explaining. Did I ask for your opinion? No I don't think so.
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Re: Reason for my friend's isolation

Postby justonemoreperson » Sat Apr 21, 2012 5:35 pm

thatright wrote:I was explaining. Did I ask for your opinion? No I don't think so.



Which is why I asked you what you wanted.

So, you posted on a global forum and didn't expect an opinion? How odd.

I am, however, beginning to see why he might be avoiding you.
I'm not arguing, I'm explaining why I'm right.
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Re: Reason for my friend's isolation

Postby Onebravegirl » Sat Apr 21, 2012 7:57 pm

Hi thatright,
Is this something you are trying to understand? Why your friend is so shy? Has he an Illness? I couldnt quite get the reason for your post, but it is always good to express thoughts. So I wondered if there is something you are maybe worried about with this person?
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Re: Reason for my friend's isolation

Postby masquerade » Sun Apr 22, 2012 8:09 am

Justonemoreperson, please be respectful in your posts.
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Re: Reason for my friend's isolation

Postby justonemoreperson » Sun Apr 22, 2012 8:29 am

masquerade wrote:Justonemoreperson, please be respectful in your posts.


Could you explain what it is about my post that was disrespectful?

This person posted a thread, which is usually done to draw views, comments and opinions.
I made some observations based on the original post. The original poster then sent quite a rude reply.
I was hoping that my thoughts might help this person to re-eveluate the situation from a different point of view.
Following the reply, it ocurred to me that if the original poster was this quick to jump on someone's comments without thinking "why" they were made it might be indicative of the way they generally communicate and may be the reason this friend is avoiding them. Without having our views and opinions challenged, how can we possible expect to change? If we don't change then how can we expect different results from our actions?
I'm not arguing, I'm explaining why I'm right.
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Re: Reason for my friend's isolation

Postby thatright » Sun Apr 22, 2012 9:13 am

I gave some insight into my friend's isolation to the people who kindly gave me some advice on my other thread. You don't even know my friend or me. So don't try and insult me troll.
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Re: Reason for my friend's isolation

Postby justonemoreperson » Sun Apr 22, 2012 9:59 am

Does his last comment get the same response as I got?

While it does nothing but support my argument, it does seem rather disrespectful.
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Re: Reason for my friend's isolation

Postby lilyfairy » Sun Apr 22, 2012 11:23 am

thatright and justonemoreperson please both keep comments constructive and respectful.
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