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Crossed a line, need advise... (trigger)

Postby mrerror » Mon Nov 30, 2020 4:45 pm

This question has details, but no sex was involved. My pre teen daughter has been very open about her sexual development, in questions and conversation over the past year or so. We've always had a close, goofy and wonderfully weird relationship. Tonight a line was crossed, and I'm feeling confused and bad. Not sure how to respond or what to do about it. Basically, she touched me where she shouldn't have, and I responded by touching her back. It didn't start as feeling sexual but it escalated quickly to that nature. I don't feel attracted to her, and I'm sure the feeling is mutual, but we both got lost in some odd sensual exchange. Her body just changed from a kid to adult proportions in a very short time. I realized I should have reacted negatively or uncomfortably, and I can't explain logically why I didn't sooner. I did finally explain to her softly that we need our own space for a bit, and asked her to go to bed. Pretty sure that made her feel bad as well.

I feel like I should talk to her about what happened and apologize. Explain that whatever that behavior was is not ok, and I made a mistake about how to respond. Never imagined anything link that could happen. I've never been an abuser in any form. Now, left in shock a bit. Unsure how to deal with this. Sorry to anyone offended.
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Re: Crossed a line, need advise... (trigger)

Postby Snaga » Tue Dec 01, 2020 3:59 am

Hello and welcome to the forums- I think a gentle talk on how you both require boundaries wouldn't be amiss.

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Postby jaus tail » Wed Dec 09, 2020 4:54 am

i may be old fashioned but i dont think parents and children must be open to discuss sex. sure you can have 'the talk' with your child.

i wouldnt say to apologize. the child must've gotten over it quickly. u'd only embarrass the child by mentioning it again. maybe take the child to some sex ed guy to tell him about sex stuff, cons of porn addiction...
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Postby CammieMe » Thu Dec 17, 2020 7:09 am

I agree. Let him talk to professionals. It's better to deal with this issue early on than to have him suffer in the long run.
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