Aj86 wrote:Noted. So IF she isn't faking anything and is being genuine then what's possibly keeping her from "getting on the dance floor with me?"
... i'm good ... but i'm not that good! there could be all sorts of things holding her back. for example: she may not feel that she's ready to jumps feet first into another relationship just yet.
Aj86 wrote:You saying I should back off(like I am already starting to do) and let her come to me?
... i'm saying that you should dial back your expectations, not necessarily your actions. if you're only doing things for her in the expectation of getting something, that's not a good thing. ultimately, that will lead to doubt and resentment. give only that which you can give freely and without expectation. in other words, don't ever try to own other people. this is an enormous mistake. people aren't property. we can't simply buy them with our kindnesses towards them. what they choose to give to us of themselves is just that, a gift. never give in the expectation of receiving and always be grateful for that which you are given. in this way you free yourself of needing to second guess people, which you've been doing in spades here, and you can simply relax and be yourself and let life bring its own rewards.
Aj86 wrote:Since I have started that she has called me in distressed from work (which I believe now to be 100% true because I have heard several other sides to what happened over the weekend at work) saying she needed to hear my voice (she has said on several occasions that I can calm her down and "reground" her). The second day was worse than the first, to the point I went to pick her up on break and drove her around and let her vent it all out which I honestly believe helped a lot because she was relaxed and smiling again by the time I took her back to work.
... games are games. me, i don't play games. i say and do whatever i believe to be right in that moment. in retrospect, i don't always get it right but i can at least say hand on heart that i meant to. in short, stop playing games. search your heart and choose what you believe to be right in that moment, and do it for that reason alone and nothing more. and, should you subsequently find that you were wrong, say so and thereby seek the forgiveness that you need to move on once more.
Aj86 wrote:I will add those who did wrong this past weekend have since been written up for their actions and wrong doings.
... this must be for someone else's ears, not mine.