I also am just going on my gut from what bits and pieces you write here, but see even this...
Aj86 wrote:I appriecate the input. I have backed off drastically on communication with her. Still do some but no where to the level it was. She did call me today while she was on break at work and was worked up over a coworker who has sexually harassed her a few months back was working in her department, unclear why.
A good example of how what happens at the office can turn ugly fast. It is a reminder she could come to see you as harassing her too, and it won't matter whether or not you believe you have, if she perceives it that way, then you may lose your job (or worse) over it.
You want to see the best in her, and that's fine, but just keep in mind that nobody who is manipulative warns others in advance. Sucks that we can't simply be trusting, but the onus is on us to protect ourselves.