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is this rape? lost and confused

Postby psychedelic » Sat Dec 26, 2020 11:17 am

Hello, I am dealing with an issue now going back over the terrible and abusive things my ex partner has done to me over the past year, and a few months ago something happened that makes me question the real depth of everything that happened

one day, my partner and i engaged in sexual intercourse, i consented at first but during it i wanted to back out so i told them no, no. they stopped for a moment and i couldnt get any more words out after that so they kept going and i was stiff until they were done.

so i come with the question, is this sexual assault/rape? i always feel like i'm losing my mind thinking about these things, like as if its not real, it couldn't be me, it could never happen to me... so i come to ask others and clear my head of all of this horrible $#%^ and get the facts and everything straight..
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Re: is this rape? lost and confused

Postby Allcoulors » Sat Dec 26, 2020 11:05 pm

I wouldnt consider it rape but its not up tot me to deal with it. What do you think? That's the most important answer
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Re: is this rape? lost and confused

Postby Snaga » Sun Dec 27, 2020 4:26 am

From the outside, it seems to be in a grey area- short of violence, threats, or doing things when a person is unconscious, is what a partner does, rape? I don't consider it so- but that doesn't mean it's not abusive behaviour, either.
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Re: is this rape? lost and confused

Postby lilyfairy » Wed Jan 06, 2021 5:01 am

Yes, it is. Even though you initially said yes, it's ok to change your mind if you're not comfortable. This article might help. https://www.healthline.com/health/was-i-raped

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