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How to truly open up with a therapist?

Postby voracious_lemon » Thu Sep 12, 2019 10:51 pm

Just yesterday I gave my therapist the textbook version of what happened to me (basic facts, no emotions involved), but she doesn't grasp how much it still affects me and I find it very hard to open up about it. Any advice?
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Re: How to truly open up with a therapist?

Postby Terry E. » Fri Sep 13, 2019 2:52 am

Hmmm why do you suggest she "does not grasp how much it effects you". I think part of their training/style is to keep them emotionally removed so that they can guide us better. I don't think we will ever know how much any of our stuff effects them.
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Re: How to truly open up with a therapist?

Postby voracious_lemon » Fri Sep 13, 2019 3:06 pm

She doesn't know because I haven't told her and I don't think she has the ability to read minds for people she's spent 2 hours total with.
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Re: How to truly open up with a therapist?

Postby birdsong87 » Fri Sep 13, 2019 8:19 pm

you need time to build trust. a very good therapist would actually have stopped you from spilling your whole story that early in the relationship.
to share a story with the feelings that belong to the story is where we get a chance to feel that there is someone with us in the sharing, someone to support us and someone who gets it. as long as we are numb for our feelings and disconnected from relationships we won't feel understood.
but to manage it means we have to get vulnerable and we won't ever get vulnerable with someone we don't know and trust. which means seeing them for a longer period of time.
Some therapists pretend that trauma can be healed in 3 sessions but they are wrong.
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Re: How to truly open up with a therapist?

Postby Terry E. » Fri Sep 13, 2019 9:10 pm

voracious_lemon wrote:She doesn't know because I haven't told her and I don't think she has the ability to read minds for people she's spent 2 hours total with.


Okay, yep. A very unpleasant time.

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