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HOCD CURE, how to beat hocd.

Postby TreyBall » Mon Oct 23, 2017 9:29 pm

What’s up, you’ve been dealing with hocd and the constant thought of you being attractet to the sex you don’t want to be attracted to. You’ve been suffering every single waking minute, your depressed, desperate for help and struggle every day to just live because inside you are a anxiety bomb or your head will never shut up or both. I really insist you read this entire thing, please read this entire thing.

So first let me introduce myself, I’m trey, a 16 year old dude who has been attracted to females his entire life, and a little over a year ago I started to deal with hocd. Every day was a constant battle of am I gay or not. I had it worse than most of you because I have severe ocd and it really got to me. Growing up I was a porn addict, I had masturbated to gay porn on rare occasions and even had some gay fantasies. When I got hocd it just got worse and worse every single day, it was thought after thought poked with anxiety attack after anxiety attack. Couldn’t focus on LITERALLY ANYTHING BUT THE THOUGHTS. I had the stupidest fears, trust me the same as yours. Every day was a constant check, paying close attention to my penis and trying so hard to get erections to girls. Everytime I got the thoughts I would lose interest in anything and everything and so I never wanted to do anything because the thoughts harmed me. I had struggled over a year and I wish I could go back because the way to beat this thing was always right in front of me. PLEASE DONT BE AN IDIOT LIKE ME AND TRY TO HIDE FROM THIS:

I saw how other people beat hocd, to accept that being gay is okay, and to just stop caring about the thoughts. THAT DOES NOT MEAN STOP THINKING ABOUT THE THOUGHTS, that is impossible, you have to let the thoughts just sit in your head. Hocd is not the thoughts, it’s the compulsions, compulsions are things you do after you get a thought to reassure yourself your not gay. These could be things like checking gay vs straight porn, checking to see if you got aroused by a sane sex person, staring at guys to see if you think there hot, there are millions of other ways you could suffer a compulsion. You must stop the compulsions completely, just cut them off, every time you get a bad thought, just think I’m not going to do a compulsion, I don’t care about you, DO NOT FORCE YOURSELF TO STOP THINKING ABOUT IT!!!! You just let the thought be, you must stop all the checking.


MY STORY ON HOW I OVERCAME IT(READ THIS): It all started last Tuesday, still dealing with hocd I gave up completely, I told myself I’m gay and I don’t care, I cried and I thought how it’s not my fault, I forced myself to accept I’m gay. The next day I tried to do things like check out guys and stuff and it obviously didn’t work because I’m not gay, I didn’t enjoy being gay so I knew I wasn’t, but the thoughts weren’t going to let me go that easily, so I decided to cut them off completely. Every time I got a bad thought I just didn’t care, I let it be.

Examples: Mind: “you think he’s hot?” Me: No response
Mind: “why is your hand in the motion?” Me: no response
Mind: “your not attracted to her!” Me: no response
Mind: “you don’t have hocd your gay!” Me: no response

You get the point? Just leave the thoughts be. Here is a example of what not to do

Mind: “you think he’s hot?” Me: “what??! Let me see if I get hard thinking about him sexually!”
Mind: “you don’t have hocd!” Me: “what...yes I do, but what if I’m just lying to myself..?”

Don’t do that please.

Hocd is just like every other OCD, just let it go, accept the thoughts. My anxiety has completely gone l, seriously in one week I feel so close to being straight again. I feel so productive now and I want to succeed in my future. You need to accept that being gay will not affect your life, your future, or your well being. Plus in like 10 years I bet being gay is going to be a normal thing. And you have to cut out the thoughts like I just showed. It won’t turn you back to normal in a instant, even I’m not completely gone with the thoughts, but I have rid about 75 percent of the fearvaway in just one week.

Other important factors that might affect you:

-if you are a porn addict, take a 3 week break with no porn completely and this includes everything. Anything connected to being sexual, ignore it.

-if you smoke, stop that shiz, you aren’t gonna get better cause weed causes anxiety

-don’t revisit this sight, it will only remind you of the thoughts, don’t come back till you are comfortable and confident like me.

Please ask questions I’m going to answer all, I want to help you all because I know how controlling this is, don’t be afraid to ask ANYTHING. Just promise you will not lie and be 100 percent honest.
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Re: HOCD CURE, how to beat hocd.

Postby Naniun » Mon Oct 23, 2017 11:26 pm

Not sure if i have HOCD but i sure as hell have TOCD and im gonna try to apply the things you mentioned to get better, thanks mate
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Re: HOCD CURE, how to beat hocd.

Postby TreyBall » Tue Oct 24, 2017 1:09 am

Naniun wrote:Not sure if i have HOCD but i sure as hell have TOCD and im gonna try to apply the things you mentioned to get better, thanks mate


I forgot to mention this works with any OCD, I hope it helps you, just remember any time you get a thought that scared you, don’t do any compulsions to reassure yourself. I wish you luck please keep me updated!
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Re: HOCD CURE, how to beat hocd.

Postby Battybat21 » Wed Oct 25, 2017 4:57 pm

Hey, I'm a girl, 17 and got my hocd when I was 13.
Your story reminds me so much of mine, only I didn't watch porn that much, I only watched it on occasion because I was curious as to what it was. I never had a boyfriend but I did have a lot of crushes, only 2 of them long term big crushes. What about urges? Did you have those? For example:

Me: *sitting next to a female friend*
Hocd: "look how pretty she is, would you date her?"
Me: no!
Hocd: "touch her leg, kiss her, you would like that because you are gay!!"

Then whenever a boy would walk by my mind would say "oh you dont think he is cute, you are so gay!"

Idk...if you have any advice on that, please do share!
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Re: HOCD CURE, how to beat hocd.

Postby WorriedG287 » Wed Oct 25, 2017 6:04 pm

Nice post, it's not often on here that people post their internal dialogue and it helps to see that it's relatable.

I've just started trying this myself and it does help. Though there's still that uncertainty in the back of my head, I'm trying really hard to be diligent and not analyze my hocd.
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Re: HOCD CURE, how to beat hocd.

Postby Battybat21 » Thu Oct 26, 2017 4:54 pm

Reading other people's inner dialogues makes me realize that 99% of thr "weird and creepy" thoughts I have, are actually really common hocd thoughts.

Hocd sucks because no matter how much progress you make, there will ALWAYS be that part at the back of your head that will keep pushing the agenda that you are gay. Even when the compulsions and fears go away, I always end up with that voice, and even a simple memory of how much my hocd totrtured me - is sometimes enough to throw me back off track.
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Re: HOCD CURE, how to beat hocd.

Postby TreyBall » Sun Oct 29, 2017 8:46 am

WorriedG287 wrote:Nice post, it's not often on here that people post their internal dialogue and it helps to see that it's relatable.

I've just started trying this myself and it does help. Though there's still that uncertainty in the back of my head, I'm trying really hard to be diligent and not analyze my hocd.


How are you doing right now? After 2 weeks I have to say I can’t even believe hocd harmed me that much. I will rarely get the thoughts, and today it happened, but I forced myself to let it go, to not care, no compulsions and no overthinking, and it went away. It feels really hard to ignore it, I feel the same way, no matter what happens, do not give up and give in to the thoughts, be confident and when you get anxiety attacks then smile and let your anxiety run through you with no compulsion cause letting anxiety attacks be is a huge healing factor. You will notice as time goes the anxiety really gets cut down, now I have zero anxiety from my method to beat it.

-- Sun Oct 29, 2017 3:48 am --

Battybat21 wrote:Reading other people's inner dialogues makes me realize that 99% of thr "weird and creepy" thoughts I have, are actually really common hocd thoughts.

Hocd sucks because no matter how much progress you make, there will ALWAYS be that part at the back of your head that will keep pushing the agenda that you are gay. Even when the compulsions and fears go away, I always end up with that voice, and even a simple memory of how much my hocd totrtured me - is sometimes enough to throw me back off track.


From your first post, yes those thoughts were the same exact ones I got, don’t scream in your head, like answering to the thoughts with a big no, because it will only lead to more questioning, like I said you must let the thoughts be, simple as that. I was in your shoes and trust me when I read stuff like accept the thoughts, I ignored them cause I thought that was crazy, DONT IGNORE ME. Stop asking for reassurance, that is a compulsion. Please let the thoughts flow in your brain, it’s that simple.
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