by mc271828 » Wed Jul 26, 2023 1:27 pm
I apologize in advance for possible grammar mistakes. Today one of my therapists (a psychologist) suggested that I could be a "covert" narcissist, or at least that I could have some traits of that disorder. Honestly it was the first time I heard of this word, "covert", although I knew the word "narcissist", so I was a bit confused and after the meeting I started searching online for clarification. Long story short, the two important things for me are: I'm very competitive intellectually by nature and I was bullied at high school. Also, it's important to mention that in high school I was very bad in Maths but, when we started Calculus, I became interested in it and started studying it, also for social "revenge" and "glorification". That led to me starting a Maths degree like three years ago, of which I completed with average results a little more than one year of study before entering therapy for what I suppose was depression (I studied too much alone, did not follow lectures and tried to avoid social life in general). After that, I changed like three or four degrees because of confusion and anger for what I felt was not right. Now I recovered, and I'm back into Maths in some way. Despite that, I'm still focused on what happened in that strange period and in high school, which I consider an unforgettable failure in my life both academically and socially. Although I have few "real" friends (3,4), I'm now active socially in a group of people without any problems. After this data, I ask about what should I do about these words of being a "covert" narcissist: should I, for example, ask for clarifications directly to my therapist or should I simply "trust" him/her, work about it at therapy with the chosen path and forgetting the curiosity of the possible "level" of the disturb ?