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Re: Definition, Causes, Symptoms & Treatment

Postby 1PolarBear » Tue May 10, 2016 9:17 am

greavesy1984 wrote:How long can a narcissist 'cover' their problems?


Most people won't hide their jealousy more than 6 months, for the more severe cases, it is always there.
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Re: Definition, Causes, Symptoms & Treatment

Postby greavesy1984 » Tue May 10, 2016 10:21 am

Can you get jealous of a person you only see on weekends? Especially if you've only ever seen them on weekends form the beginning and haven't built up that connection, only via texts?

I couldn't have a 'middle distance relationship' like that and I am VERY surprised she is doing so. She even said she couldn't have one of those but I know she needed a rebound and he is someone of 'value' to her.

She doesn't talk on the phone so I know phone calls wont be happening.
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Re: Definition, Causes, Symptoms & Treatment

Postby 1PolarBear » Tue May 10, 2016 10:47 am

greavesy1984 wrote:Can you get jealous of a person you only see on weekends? Especially if you've only ever seen them on weekends form the beginning and haven't built up that connection, only via texts?


Sure. You can be jealous of people that you never met as well. It is easier to cover if you are not close though. It still comes out eventually one way or another. Some are also better at hiding it than others, but in the end, it cannot be hidden, because it is part of what the person wants, so they have to show it. But they will wait and manipulate in the short term, while waiting for the fish to take the bait, but the end game is always to get an advantage over the other, or own them, and this cannot be hidden.
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Re: Definition, Causes, Symptoms & Treatment

Postby greavesy1984 » Tue May 10, 2016 11:59 am

Is it really possible to be toxic / a narcissist in a weekend only relationship though? I mean if the supply is very low (being only at weekends and just texts through the week) then surely a narcissist wants to keep them happy and therefore makes sure problems dont occur / keeps them in.
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Re: Definition, Causes, Symptoms & Treatment

Postby 1PolarBear » Tue May 10, 2016 4:58 pm

Jealous people don't want to make people happy, they want control. It does not have to be full time, but comes a day when they come to collect.
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Re: Definition, Causes, Symptoms & Treatment

Postby downtherabbithole » Tue Aug 16, 2016 2:46 am

I am unsure if this forum is for the therapist's benefit or for the patient's, however I would appreciate an opinion from someone familiar with NPD I read the majority of 'The Narcissist's Daughter' after my Dad explained that my Grandmother and the majority of the females on his side of the family are in his opinion narcissists. I understood mostly the traits portrayed and began to wonder if I in fact suffered from this disorder. My family believe me to be a selfish person, and that once upon time I was loving and kind but because my life has led me down a path that was not their plan, that I have become nasty. I am terrified I have this disorder and maybe I am such a good manipulator that my partner cannot see it??? And am I a manipulator?? I cant stand confrontation or having others be angry at me. I recently had a little girl, majority of family is out of country minus two siblings who visited once during pregnancy, one went away around the birth and after returned took nearly two and half weeks to visit. I came to anger when neither visited more than twice, nor got in contact when hospitalised so i lashed out verbally to all when in a group discussion no comment or care was given towards the child but plenty of concern shown for a puppy or a kitten or a new car. Now all my relationships are hanging by a thread with my family. I feel as if I am going crazy, I feel guilty although over what I am not sure, I feel lost. I will not sugarcoat it, my two best friends have been on suicide watch, my two bridesmaids suffer from BorderlinePD and I seem to always get along with others that require reassurance or assistance in someway I feel duty bound to give it. And can relate to each situation/crises. Any opinions on my post are welcome. I have attended therapy before for another issue however the conversation always came back to my parents and it became to tough to face so if anyone has any insight I would greatly appreciate it.
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Re: Definition, Causes, Symptoms & Treatment

Postby Missn » Fri Sep 02, 2016 3:28 am

\I am not sure where to post this or even how to but do people here including the moderating think people can recover from this disorder?
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Re: Definition, Causes, Symptoms & Treatment

Postby hurtmom1 » Tue Dec 06, 2016 6:38 pm

I'm new to this forum and I need to find out how to discuss with others my fear about a daughter who may have NPD. Please help me?
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Re: Definition, Causes, Symptoms & Treatment

Postby bitty » Sat Dec 10, 2016 11:58 am

Hello hurtmom, I'm a female, middle aged narcissist, but if you think that I may be able to help you, I'm here.
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Re: Definition, Causes, Symptoms & Treatment

Postby Jasmer » Sat Dec 10, 2016 2:41 pm

hurtmom1 wrote:I'm new to this forum and I need to find out how to discuss with others my fear about a daughter who may have NPD. Please help me?

Just start making posts and your questions will be answered.
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