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Postby Madmonkey » Fri Feb 02, 2018 1:01 pm

Hi All new to this forum but been viewing as a guest for the past 4 months.

My Business Partner was confronted by her doctor yesterday regarding Munchhausen Syndrome
it also appears she is now on a register in all hospitals in our state and all specialists are on the same page

She has gone into Silent running mode as she now knows that i know.
if you are a suffer whats the best way to approach this situation?
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Re: Business Partner confronted

Postby Selfless74 » Fri Feb 09, 2018 4:15 am

Wow.

I do have this, and she will more than likely, try to go out of state. Or move out of state.

Give it no oxygen or money (obviously).

For you, the only thing I can suggest? Ala-non. If she will ever agree-to work a 12 step program.

Other than that, nothing you can do.
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Re: Business Partner confronted

Postby MrPink » Tue Feb 13, 2018 3:33 am

I am in the US. Just found out today on accident that I have been diagnosed with MBPS (for myself and not by proxy) for a year now but wasn't told. Is that what automatically happens to us? Is we go on a registry? Will we know? I don't care if I go on a registry as I have always gone to the same doctors or clinics.

I see that for MSBP selfless, you are recommending a program - could you elaborate which program? I am not finding any information about what does help look like? I was hoping a doctor would have a courtesy to talk with me about this, don't they normally?

It isn't a bad thing but I am questioning all of my choices and decisions regarding healthcare. I have been regardless as I was following so much of what my doctors were telling me to do.
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Re: Business Partner confronted

Postby Selfless74 » Wed Feb 14, 2018 7:27 pm

Mr. Pink,

A 12 Step Recovery program.

Few doctors are ever going to see anyone like us. If there are any-and even this applies to psychiatrists, which really is fine with me, I am sick to death of being sent immediately to one as soon as I show up. I was thinking of maybe going to an ND, or naturopath.

About a year ago, I found myself going through all the "meds' and dumping it all out. Sick and tired of being sick and tired. When the realization of what I was doing, though none of it (yes, even surgery, I have the same type as you), was ever a conscious decision, when I realized that even so, what I have done is shorten my own lifespan, it was a "deer in the headlights" feeling.

Please feel free to message me, I think it would be nice to chat with someone online even, that has this too-find "like minded individuals, just as my father needs his AA groups, I think it helps to know also that none of us are the first. Faking schizo, taking way too much mileage out of chronic pain, as well, as? That online stuff. Wow, guilt can really be a but kicker.

And I found myself, much like Bill did in the AA Big Book, sort of mentally going through the steps. I had to look back on the past year to see it, but now, definitely.

Those promises, they do come true. I have a job, a 401K, a college savings plan (I am back in school at 43), and some other really positive things going.

I did drop the Lamotrigine (facial neuropathy), it was helping but the natural stuff is going fine, and it is working-the Lamotrigine was making me act like an overgrown kid, and I have done quite enough of that one. And some weed.

-- Wed Feb 14, 2018 1:28 pm --

A registry? No idea-we are not sex offenders.
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Re: Business Partner confronted

Postby MrPink » Fri Feb 16, 2018 3:14 am

The registry came from a post where someone stated that a doctor was going to call hospitals in the area on a person? Not sure. I can't be overly concerned about it. It would be nice to have someone challenge me as I do need to think about things on a different type of scale now and challenge my belief system or change will not occur.

I've been reading about working AA and it makes sense after thinking on it a bit.
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Re: Business Partner confronted

Postby Selfless74 » Sat Feb 17, 2018 11:19 am

A registry is kept on people who abuse the ER just for drugs, and I am guessing most of us fall into that category. No question I am on registry for that, but so? So are a lot of people.

It can also keep you more honest, which since it is an issue for anyone in this forum, then it may not necessarily be a bad thing. It is genrally, also though you're not going to appreciate it at the time, is for your best interest too.

And given I have been in a bad denial about this for years, that is also not uncommon.

Meds, also can cause the problems you're trying to treat, and pain isn't the only one (a narcotic does this most of the time, for chronic pain, yeah). Mental illness is another, and in my case, I can see that is what probably is the case, it makes me act like a kid.

I think though, it feels like crap from a mental health standpoint, it is probably a good thing too.
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Re: Business Partner confronted

Postby MrPink » Mon Feb 19, 2018 1:55 am

I hadn't realized there was a registry or how they kept track of drug seekers and I agree it is a good thing. For me as well. This was years ago that I was in the ER for a true issue otherwise I don't go to the ER. It peeked my curiosity about a registry. Personally, I'm not a person that changes doctors at all. Even with this diagnoses my initial reactions isn't to change providers. Why? In the last 2 years I have been coming off many, many medications that have changed my personality. Opiates and benzos for real problems. I have no idea how I was acting from another person's perspective. None. I know I had changed even if they were prescribed.
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Re: Business Partner confronted

Postby Selfless74 » Tue Feb 20, 2018 1:55 pm

Mr. Big,

I have seen the same changes in myself. Anything that changes you is in my opinion, one to put on a list of "No thanks."

For the majority of my adult life, I have always been on some kind of mental health medication, the Lamotrigine was one that was working for the facial neuropathy, however I also was noticing still that I had behaviors that I thought to myself, "What is my problem????" And it was then that I made the connection-plus, I have cognitive issues now, any medication I take is going to make that worse-one reason I think I'd prefer to try homeopathy-and in your state, try an ND. They can help you there.

A pharmcist said to me once, "Sometimes, medications can cause the problems they're intended to treat." Pain is one, if I take an opiate over time, it causes pain, known as hyperanalgesia.

Mental illness is another, I had simplhy even with the Lamotrigine, forgotten that rule of thumb-it was for pain, not for mental heath issues-and I realized that while it worked great for pain, it may be a problem because it would be changing me as a person, not okay (with me either).

I began managing that with the supplements that can help nerve pain, and the anti-inflaammatory diet. So far, so good, and I was able to discontinue any medications I was taking, save the NyQuil I take for sleep, so far, I am still on my 3rd shift schedule.

And it never means that you are dealing with no issues-question may be better asked, "Are we talking about something new here?" I have GI, which my whole GI tract is cooked, no motility (I manage with diet).
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