by HesDeltanCaptain » Mon May 13, 2013 11:05 pm
As with many other issues, I think much of the blame goes to the Bible. In it, male homosexual acts are condemned, but there's no mention of any such sin for women. Well, at least in my half, the true half hehe. Kidding.
Porn deserves a bit of blame as well since in pretty much all of it there's the one obligatory girl-girl sex scene even if 'straight' porn. So two girls is 'hot.' And unless 'feminist-produced' porn of today included a guy-guy equivilent scene, it's not something even known to happen in porn. So society too will adopt such attitudes: girl-girl is hot and stimulating for straight men, but two men isn't equally arrousing for straight women.
The fact though is the very terms of gay r straight or bi are terms other people use about other people. What we ourselves may be can change instantly. Identifying as a given orientation can change with alcohol and other drug influences, prison settings (all one sex et al. and 'making' due',) or by virtue of different culture (in Latin cultures only the submissive role is thought of as 'gay' whereas the dominant can identify as straight regardless of how many men they have homosexual sex with.)
You're gay if you wanna identify that way. But ultimately the term means less than nothing as a gay man can have sex with a gal pal of his yet still identify as gay and vice-versa. The word doesn't mean anything. Nor are the terms permanent or binding.
"I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I pretended to be." - Me.