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Homosexual experience double standard

Postby CourageousChris » Sat Mar 02, 2013 1:26 am

There are women in this generation have kissed or have had a sexual encounter with another women. However, some of these women will point out they are not lesbian or bisexual, and that they are straight. And I believe that's very possible. But there's seems to be a different standard for men who have had a sexual encounter with another man. Nobody would take their word if they said they straight, even though they've had a sexual encounter with another man. I argue that is also possible. The same way a woman can have a sexual encounter with another women and not be a lesbian, it's also possible for a man to have a sexual encounter with another man and not nesscessarily be gay. People in general seem to disagree. That if a man has experimented sexually with another man, then he MUST be gay. I'm not trying to justify it. I'm curious on why men are held to a different standard when it comes to this.
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Re: Homosexual experience double standard

Postby JGunderssen » Mon May 13, 2013 2:15 am

Note: this is just my theory, and it's not necessarily what I believe to be right or "normal"... Think of this as being written from society's point of view; this is just how most people see it:

Woman are the nurturing and caring type. They can have sex with other women and not lose any feminine value. To a man, they are still just as attractive as they were before (and for most men, MORE attractive, because we men seem to love the sight of two attractive women going at it)

Men are supposed to be strong and in charge, and when they "submit" to another man and do things that a woman does, that takes away their masculinity points. It suggests that there is something wrong with that man, like he is not up to the task of being a man in society so he feels the need to "escape" by acting like a woman for a while.


Again: this is a "point of view" piece. It just might shed some light on why people think women having sex = not necessarily gay, but men having sex = GAY GAY GAY GAY
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Re: Homosexual experience double standard

Postby HesDeltanCaptain » Mon May 13, 2013 11:05 pm

As with many other issues, I think much of the blame goes to the Bible. In it, male homosexual acts are condemned, but there's no mention of any such sin for women. Well, at least in my half, the true half hehe. Kidding.

Porn deserves a bit of blame as well since in pretty much all of it there's the one obligatory girl-girl sex scene even if 'straight' porn. So two girls is 'hot.' And unless 'feminist-produced' porn of today included a guy-guy equivilent scene, it's not something even known to happen in porn. So society too will adopt such attitudes: girl-girl is hot and stimulating for straight men, but two men isn't equally arrousing for straight women.

The fact though is the very terms of gay r straight or bi are terms other people use about other people. What we ourselves may be can change instantly. Identifying as a given orientation can change with alcohol and other drug influences, prison settings (all one sex et al. and 'making' due',) or by virtue of different culture (in Latin cultures only the submissive role is thought of as 'gay' whereas the dominant can identify as straight regardless of how many men they have homosexual sex with.)

You're gay if you wanna identify that way. But ultimately the term means less than nothing as a gay man can have sex with a gal pal of his yet still identify as gay and vice-versa. The word doesn't mean anything. Nor are the terms permanent or binding.
"I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I pretended to be." - Me.
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Re: Homosexual experience double standard

Postby RottenFish » Thu Nov 29, 2018 11:50 pm

I'm happy times have changed. Last night I kissed a guy and a girl at a bar. Both loved the kiss. I'm a guy by the way.

It's good to live in a time where more and more men are comfortable enough to kiss another guy.
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