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Genital infection contracted while asleep?

Postby HiddenExit77 » Wed Jan 02, 2013 8:15 am

Hello...this is kind of a complex post. It kind of overlaps with the Borderline Personality Disorder topic. I have had a vague and tumultuous relationship with this girl for almost two years now. She definitely suffers from BPD although she will not acknowledge that. Our relationship has been defined by all the trademarks of that situation- and I do accept blame for perpetuating relationships with those who are most harmful to me - those girls who are sweet and naughty at the same time, sneaky, a little sadistic, and full of "Daddy Issues"/looking for a knight in shining armor. On to the sexuality bit and my question. There is no doubt in my mind that this girl has done sexual things to me while I was asleep - and she has now finally kind of admitted that to me (that seems to be a running theme in my relationships: people taking advantage of me in my sleep). Well, we had a real rough spot where she fell in love with my best friend at the time. It was a horrific time for me emotionally, and that only fed her ego and, in the long term, her attachment to me. I stopped seeing that former best friend for a while, and I was tormented by the suspicion that she was hooking up with him - eventually I accepted that it had probably happened, and that maybe it was a good thing in the end because he was a really lonely guy who needed a little validation. Anyway, I start to notice that my testicles/scrotum itch and sting really bad - like a real sharp stinging throughout the day, all over my scrotum. Not long after I notice this, I end up (inadvertently) hanging out with that former guy friend. He says that he has some kind of infection in which his balls itch all the time. The way he describes it sounds EXACTLY like what I have. I kind of forget about this for a while, but then one day I am texting with the girl and I say "by the way, my balls have been itching and stinging really bad, I wonder what that's about" and she says something like "well you could go to so-and-so clinic, i went there for a pap smear for an infection it could be that" (all one sentence). I say "It could be that?" She says "Infection". End of conversation. Now, when she and I were last hanging out, she was living in my small apartment with me. She and I have never physically had sex while awake that I remember (except on Skype if you can count that) but I know she has fooled with me in my sleep. In fact, when she was living with me she strongly encouraged me to go to bed/sleep naked at night. One night I went to sleep naked with just a thin sheet covering me, with her in the room. When i wake the next morning, a long dark hair (could only be hers) was stuck in my foreskin. I figured she had performed oral sex on me. My question is, could I have gotten this infection from her? Wouldn't that mean that she had performed full intercourse with me in my sleep? Would she be able to pull that off?

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Re: Genital infection contracted while asleep?

Postby javert » Wed Jan 02, 2013 8:38 am

HiddenExit77 wrote:My question is, could I have gotten this infection from her? Wouldn't that mean that she had performed full intercourse with me in my sleep? Would she be able to pull that off?

First things first...find out from a doctor if you have an infection, and if so, what kind of infection. If your girlfriend went to a clinic for an "infection", it could be something as mild as vaginosis (bacterial infection) or thrush (fungal infection). Incidentally, I haven't heard of pap smears being done for infections - I thought they were to check for cervical abnormalities (e.g. early signs of cervical cancer). STIs are usually tested for with blood and urine samples.

I wouldn't start running hypothetical scenarios through your head about whether your girlfriend gave you a STI during your sleep until you know that you actually have a STI. Different infections have different ways of being contracted. Many require direct contact (e.g. sex), but some only require indirect contact, and supposedly can even be 'caught' from a toilet seat. Some can be dormant in your body for a long time before you show symptoms, so if you do have an STI, it may not have been contracted from your girlfriend but date back to a prior experience.

That said, if you want to know if your girlfriend had sex with you whilst you were asleep, why not just ask her?
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Re: Genital infection contracted while asleep?

Postby HaxX » Wed Jan 02, 2013 10:47 am

It sounds like you need to actually need to rule out an infection before jumping to conclusions.
A pap smear may be done to check for presance HPV, the virus that causes cervical cancer, as well as cell changes. An infection can be many things.
You may even have jock itch, but you need to communicate with your girlfriend, and ask her what is going on, and get yourself to a clinic to see what is causing the itching.

As for her having sex with you in your sleep its doable. I have had sex many times with a sleeping man (with their prior permission of course) It takes a bit of acrobatics so they wont wake up but it is entirly possible.
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Re: Genital infection contracted while asleep?

Postby superid » Thu Jan 10, 2013 9:27 pm

Don't hesitate to rule out pubic lice, too, the easiest sexually transmitted condition to get. They're consistent with the symptoms you describe and treatable with some non-prescription topical applications from a pharmacy, as well as some hygienic measures like hot-washing bedclothes/lower garments etc. They're not always that easy to see, either. Good luck dealing with the physical side of this issue.
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